20 Reasons Why Your Dog Doesn't Listen When it Matters the Most

From the Book, "Hidden Secrets Behind Dog Training"


Put an end to all the guesswork of why your dog plays dumb, plays deaf, or you swear you’ve become
invisible especially when it comes to _________________. (You fill in the blank!)

Prepare yourself. Here are all twenty:


1. You Have Not Established Yourself As an Authority Figure to Your Dog:

You have been the provider, the spoiler, the mommy, the daddy, the buddy, the observer or just the nagger, but definitely NOT the enforcer. You always come up with an excuse to skip making your dog do something against his will, or obey your commands, for that matter. And now your dog’s testing you to see whether you are going to follow through on what you just said or not. If we could read your dog’s thoughts in a bubble above his head, it would probably read, “Oh, come on. Who gave you the idea that I should listen to YOU now? Sit down, shut up and give me that belly-rub and that pig’s ear to chew on or else I’ll pee or poo on
your couch tonight. Take that! You dog trainer wannabe!” 


2. You’ve Trained Your Dog with Treats and Now He Hardly Obeys You Without Them:

“As long as you keep those treats coming, I’ll do whatever you ask.” This is what will be crossing your dog’s mind as you keep shoving goodies down his throat and calling it training. This topic has already been
discussed earlier in much detail in the chapter Busting the Biggest Scam in the Dog Training Industry.
If you haven’t read it, I strongly advise you to do so. Otherwise, it’s like watching a movie halfway through. You can’t always guess what happened earlier on.


3 .  You Are Confusing Your Dog By NOT Being Consistent with Your Commands:


You and the rest of your household aren’t consistent or as clear with your commands. Sometimes it could be your training approach. Perhaps every command that you and the rest of your family use keeps changing on a daily basis. One day when you catch your dog jumping up, you say, “Down,” “No jumping,” or “Off.” And the next, you keep on patting your dog’s head while saying, “I know, I knoooow, sweetheart… Mommy missed you too.” Now, if we could read your dog’s mind, we would hear, “You don’t even know what you want, Mommy! How should I?”

Consistency is the key in getting concrete results and most important, you need to be consistent by doing everything CORRECTLY. Many owners and even some trainers train their dogs day and night but still end up with a dog that performs weak and sloppy. This is clearly due to having a wrong training technique. They were definitely consistent, but did it “incorrectly!” They hoped to get somewhere even by doing it the wrong way. Does this remind you of anyone?


4. You've Had the Wrong Assumptions to Your Voice Tone:
 

Did you know that over eighty percent of trainers in the U.S., and probably around the world, are women? So if you’re a female reading this, don’t worry. You don’t need to have your husband or boyfriend’s tone of voice in order to get your dog’s attention. However, if your command sounds something like: “Siiiiiiiiiit,” “Noooooo,” or “Dowwwwn,” you are asking your dog, not telling him. Your commands shouldn’t have any melody in them and if they sound like a request, a nag, or a drill sergeant, you are using the wrong tone. I always tell my clients, “Don’t shout it, don’t sing it and certainly, don’t drag it. Just say it.” The idea is to meet somewhere in between.

I notice some owners mimic Mickey Mouse when they are supposed to sound firm, and growl like The Hulk when they need to sound friendly or non-threatening. Even some trainers make the mistake of barking out the commands, which isn’t always necessary, especially when dogs can hear three to four times better than we can. So why yell at any living thing that can hear better than both of us combined? Unless it is a real emergency, save those lungs for a rainy day, pal.

It makes me laugh every time I see a guy yell out a command and the walls in the room start to shake. All because the dog refused to sit or stay, for crying out loud. Hey, nobody is getting killed. So take it easy, fellas.


5. You've Spoiled Your Dog Rotten. Spoiled Dogs Ignore Everyone:

You probably read about this in my Spoiled Dog Test, but it’s definitely worth mentioning again: Spoiled dogs, just like spoiled kids, rarely listen to you or anyone else. These dogs have you wrapped around their paw and they know it. All it takes is a temper-tantrum of barking, whining, scratching, jumping or even growling and
you get hypnotized and find yourself doing things against your will. Some of these dogs run their owners’ lives just because they happen to be too old, too young, too small, too handicapped or just too cute. This is also a very common issue with dogs that have been abused in the past. They have it made with their new owner.

Whether your dog’s missing a leg, an eye, or, sadly, has only a few months to live, you still should try to correct his bad habits and make him follow your rules. Cesar Millan said it best: “Dogs don’t live in the past, but live in the moment.” Amazingly, dogs do adjust very well. They are true survivors and adapt to almost ANY circumstances.

Let’s face it, you know that your dog is very smart. He knows “exactly” what works on you and what doesn’t. Now, if you pamper your dog on a daily basis, you can expect him to ignore your commands and even embarrass you in front of your guests or out in public. Your dog knows from past experience that you rarely follow through on what you say. Or, that someone else who spoils the dog regularly, like your spouse, your kids, your relatives or your neighbors, will eventually come to the rescue!

Spoiled dogs are also known to get away with peeing and pooping everywhere. After all, they are cute and, ironically, the person spoiling them always will justify their unacceptable behavior. These dogs get away with barking nonstop, scratching, begging, destroying furniture, stealing food off counters and even marking whatever they please. Some may snap, attack other dogs or even bite. Yes, they are just like spoiled kids.
Well, hopefully your kids don’t bite!


6.  You Have a Poor Training Technique or Not Being "Diverse":

I’m pretty sure you’ve heard the saying, “Practice makes perfect.” Well, it is not just practice that makes perfect. It is “correct” practice that makes perfect. When you study topnotch trainers, you’ll notice that they don’t really care about how much they train their dogs. It is more how well they train that makes all the difference!

Think of it as dancing. Anybody can hit the dance floor and shake their booty and call it dancing. You see the same boring moves over and over again. There is no skill, no technique, no style, no smoothness, no originality, and yet this person breaks a sweat every time, fooling themselves that they are one of the best dancers in town.
Whether it be dancing or dog training, your technique, your timing, your posture, your attitude, your willingness to take constructive criticism, and actually grow from your success and failure, all play a big factor.

Now, please don’t contact me for dancing lessons. I love to watch others dance, but I don’t dance, run or jog. Besides, I’ve watched enough Law & Order to know that joggers are the ones who always find dead bodies or become the victim of an assault themselves. That’s why I’m safe and sound leaving my butt print on my couch, watching Criminal Minds. In fact, if you ever see me running, it probably means a careless client’s aggressive dog managed to slip out of its collar.


7.  You Don't Know How to Get Your Dog's Attention From a Disance or Off-leash: 

You can’t refer to your dog as a truly “trained dog” if you always have to depend on him being leashed. No matter how careful you are, your dog will get loose someday and play the “catch me if you can" game. Maybe you are the careful one in your family, but you can’t always depend on your spouse, your kids, your guests, your roommate, your neighbors or even your gardener to close the gate or door behind them. So when your dog bolts out, she better be totally off-leash trained or else you’ll pay the consequences.

Maybe you fall under the category of those careless or cocky owners who prefer to walk their “untrained” or “unpredictable” dogs without a leash. Ask yourself: are you confident enough in your dog’s training response that you truly are in complete control – even when your dog is not within your reach? How about when another dog appears out of nowhere? What if a kid runs up to you, and your dog jumps up on him to show his affection or, worse, tries to bite the poor kid? And don't forget cats, squirrels or, if you live in the country or up in the mountains, chickens, sheep, deer, skunks and bears. What the heck, let's throw in coyotes and mountain lions there too.

Now even Mommy or Daddy can’t do much in those situations. You could yell out, “NO,” “HEY,” or “Get over here,” but you can almost hear your dog laughing at you, saying, “Yeah, right, lady. You honestly expect me to listen to you when I’m off that annoying leash? Suuuuuuuure. I don’t even listen to you that well across the room or in the front yard. Keep dreaming!” Unfortunately, this is what you get when you feel sorry for your dog and let him have fun by running loose to get some exercise.

Your dog should respond to you from a distance, across the room, across the yard, in your neighborhood park, and eventually off-leash, anywhere and at any time. Most owners are ignored when their dogs are not within their reach, and that's embarrassing. This simply means they haven’t mastered the art of off-leash training. Remember, off-leash means TOTAL VERBAL CONTROL of your dog under ANY circumstances. I am not just referring to obedience commands like Sit, Stay, Down, Heel or Come. This also applies when you reprimand your dog from a distance with, NO, Leave it, Off, Drop it, Shush, Be Nice, or any other command or correction you choose to give your dog.

Besides, you’ll probably agree that even inside your home or in your yard, 99.9% of the time your dog is hanging around without a leash and may not be within your reach. So it’s best to be ready for the what-if factor. In this case: “What if my dog gets loose? How would I be able to control him without that leash?” I used to, and still do, drive other trainers crazy with my what-if scenarios. Here’s one of my philosophies:

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The more you prepare your dog and yourself for the “what-if moments,” the
more you two will be ready for the real-world.
If your trainer can’t prepare you
for those “what if moments,”find another one.

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This obviously indicates the lack of experience on the trainer’s part in preparing you for real-life off-leash situations. From my experience dealing with lots of frustrated dog owners, it amazes me to see how many dogs are not even close to being reliably off-leash trained. I’ve witnessed even trainers’ dogs act clueless when they got loose or managed to slip out of their collars. How pathetic.

Don’t forget that most cities and towns now enforce leash laws. Trainers who advertise advanced off-leash training, and can actually back up their claim with their own dogs, are extremely rare to come by. After all, they should practice what they preach. Talk is cheap. I’ve seen and heard of horrible stories of a trainer’s dog attacking a client’s dog. Yes, the trainer’s dog did this! So you can imagine what kind of a so-called “dog expert” we are talking about. Not much different from a mechanic who push-starts his car to work every day.


8 .  You Haven't Been Successful in Distraction-Proofing Your Dog:

Admit it. You have little or absolutely no control over your dog when she gets excited or agitated around your visitors, other dogs, or around your family cat. Life is full of distractions. The best way to handle this is to make sure you are able to distraction-proof your dog.

Distraction-Proofing Your Dog:

Your ultimate goal should be to have complete control of your dog wherever you are. You can’t pull this off unless you are able to control your dog inside your home, in your front yard, and in your neighborhood first. Only after you have mastered these locations should you start exposing your dog to more tempting distractions. Basically, you and your dog need to become street-smart. There are many unexpected distractions surrounding us and it’s best to be prepared for ANYTHING!

For example, your dog should never break a “stay" command. I don’t care if dinosaurs walked down the street, stay means stay. No matter what, your dog shouldn’t move. Prior to hiring me, most of my clients had dogs that would only stay for a few seconds. What’s even sadder is that the majority of these dogs would only stay for the cookie, not for the owner. Reminds me of a typical dog trainer who advocates bribery, show confirmation, or even worse, both. How bizarre that most of these trainers don’t realize what they're doing. They are just advocating these requirements based on what their mentor taught them.

Besides, do you really care about “showing” your dog? Try competing at the next Westminster Dog Show with your fixed, mixed or shelter dog. Some of you might own a champion pedigree with show confirmation potential, but from experience, I’ve noticed the majority of you alter your dog as soon as they are old enough.

Folks, always aim for practicality and a real-life approach! You’ll see that this makes you and your dog so prepared, that virtually nothing will be able to catch you off-guard. And if you DO want to show your dog, a strong foundation will help you achieve more outstanding results.

FACT: What most “trainers” have in mind for your dog isn’t always what YOU want!

In my years of helping thousands of dog owners from all walks of life, I’ve noticed something interesting: Most prefer a “well-behaved pet” rather than a super-trained dog. That’s right. People don’t always care if their dog wins them all the titles, ribbons, trophies, etc. Sure, they might enroll their dogs in “The Cutest Dog Contest,” but that’s about it. Don’t get me wrong, I have lots of respect for obedience competitions. They are amazing to watch. Just like the Olympics, this is where you should see “perfection.” But not everyone is or can be a perfectionist. Most dog owners would rather have a well-mannered pet than a well-trained soldier.

If you pay close attention to those obedience trials, you’ll notice that all the dogs perform the same “drills.” Be honest. Do you really care if your dog can jump over an obstacle? How about sniffing the dumbbell with your scent on it, picking it up and then dropping it by your foot? I seriously doubt it. Many of you don’t really care about any dumbbells. Your dog is already hyper enough as it is. So the last thing you need is for her to master jumping over your couch, the baby gate, your coffee table or the kitchen counters.

How about sniffing out objects with your scent on it? Give me a break! Did you forget your crotch and your butt? Does your dog leave those danger zones alone? I bet that your dog already steals and chews up everything with your scent on it. Let me refresh your memory: your shoes, your cell phone, the remote, your wallet, and even your lovely underpants.

And lastly, I don’t think you really care much if your dog walks perfectly next to you. Walking consistently on a loose leash alone is enough for most of you to throw a party. Besides, not all owners are crazy about teaching their dogs to come to them with their nose perfectly aligned to their master’s crotch. What I just described are all the requirements for obedience trials. If you can get your pooch to come to you every single time, that is a wonderful thing! I think I’ve made my point.

The Canine Good Citizen Test is what I recommend and offer in our school. This test prepares you and your dog for the real world. There are no dumbbells, no hoops to jump through and no need to have your dog constantly looking at you OR at your cool hand signal. Even this test will challenge your training foundation. This simply means: If you are struggling to get your dog’s full attention around minor distractions in your home, why make a fool of yourself in front of ten more dogs and ten more owners? Just like kids, and even some adults, dogs learn much better AND faster in a one-on-one setting rather than in groups.

Without a doubt, having a few private lessons with an expert will cost you more. But just like most things in life, you do get what you pay for. In conclusion, you should always look for different ways to get your dog to listen to you in real-world situations. You need to accomplish this without yelling, hitting or bribery. This is where dog owners desperately seek my help. They say, “Kevin, everything stops working when my dog _______.” You fill in the blank! Not one of them had the skill or knowledge of how to properly distraction-proof their dog.

Here’s a concept that most of you can relate to: Why should you even bother asking your dog to stay for you in front of another dog, in front of your cat or your visitors… when you can’t even get her to stay in one spot in your yard, living room or in your kitchen for at least ten or fifteen minutes? Can you honestly get your dog to “stay” ten feet away from you with your front door/gate wide open? How about unhooking or letting go of that leash?

– How Pros Distraction-proof “Their Own” Dogs –

They do so by conditioning. They take their dogs around loud noises, playful kids, and dogs of various sizes and temperaments that may or may not be spayed or neutered. They also make sure they get their dogs used to cats, and staying still when cats bolt off. You should also consider socializing your pooch around squirrels, cars, garbage trucks, the vacuum cleaner and the lawnmower. And don't forget kids on bikes, skateboards and scooters or the elderly, people in wheelchairs, mothers pushing strollers, and mothers with kids…

I think you’ve had enough. Okay, just a few more: the mail carrier, the delivery man and other people in uniform. Let me add people with crutches, with umbrellas or wearing shades, baseball caps and cowboy hats. Folks with long hair, puffy hair, the bald and the beautiful and even those with cool-colored Mohawks. Last, but certainly not least, people of different ethnicity and gender. Otherwise, any of these might set your dog off and cause him to become scared, over-protective or, even worse, lunge viciously at them just because they happen to be different!


9.  You’ve Been Blessed with a Dog that Has An Alpha Personality:

It’s not uncommon for people to confuse a stubborn dog with a dominant or aggressive dog. In the country where I grew up, we had a saying, “A lion at home, but a fox out in public.” We used this to describe people who can be very controlling at home and around family, but act more like a doormat out in public. Some dogs act the same way. They may be the king or queen of your castle, but act shy, timid and submissive to other dogs out in public. I find that fascinating.

You see, any breed, any age and certainly any size dog can run your life for you. Although when most people hear the word “dominant,” they automatically picture a Rottweiler that has a forty-inch thick neck. On the contrary, I could be referring to a Chihuahua or a fluffy Pomeranian. You may see a Golden Retriever with more alpha behavior than an American Bulldog.

So what makes a dog act like the king or queen of your house? Over the years of working with different breeds of dogs, I’ve noticed that the main reason these dogs win over their owners is simply their persistence. Your dog knows that if she resists long enough, you will eventually give in to her wants and needs. Or should I say, her temper-tantrums.

Some of these behaviors will become even more obvious once you totally STOP giving treats altogether. You’ll notice that getting your dog to obey commands without any goodies isn’t as easy. You don’t believe me? Let’s see whether you can make your dog mind you without showing his favorite treat or even holding your fingers together. These are the dogs that, if they could talk or if we could hear their thoughts, would be saying, “I know what sit means. I just don’t want to sit right now.” Or, “I know sit, you know that I know it and I know that I know it. But I never ever sit when I see a cat! Did you forget? I chase cats whenever I spot them. Plain and simple! So keep your stupid treat. I can get it later when I do that cute rollover trick.” I see that your dog likes to talk a lot.


10. You've Procrastinated Training Your Dog:

Maybe you are an owner or TRAINER who knows exactly what to do, how to do it, why you should do it. You’re also aware of which training tools work best on your dog, but you’ve been lazy or have been making excuses. It’s time to get back on track. I’m sure you’ll agree that practicing here and there is better than nothing, but it’s not always good enough. Not only will your dog’s performance get rusty, but don’t be surprised to find out that your dog is testing you all over again. Dogs are a lot like musical instruments. After you tune them, you have to make sure they stay in tune. Wouldn’t it be nice if they could tune themselves!

When a client sends their dog to me for boot camp training, I help them understand that their dog won’t stay trained for life without “their” consistent reinforcement. This is the case regardless of whose boot camp you might be considering. Unless you hire a full-time trainer for your dogs or are willing to adopt me, the maintenance is still up to you. If you procrastinate or become inconsistent, your dog will rapidly become inconsistent in his training response.

This is no different than if you have been inconsistent in your training, then out of the blue you ask your dog to stay or come to you. Your dog will most likely test you all over again. Here’s why: your dog is thinking, “Oh not that nonsense again. It’s been months since you’ve asked me to do anything. Why NOW? Are you trying to show off again? Look. I can give a paw, okay? Right paw, left paw, kisses and roll over. I can even grab a treat from the air without letting it touch the floor. That should prove to you that I am smart, trained AND cute. Just leave me alone!”


11. You Excuse Your Dog's Behavior Because of His Age:

Your dog is never too young or too old to learn what’s right and what’s wrong. What is acceptable and what is unacceptable. It amazes me when I see some owners who don’t even bother to correct their dog’s bad habits just because their dog is too old. I seriously doubt that you’d want people to remember your dog’s last years or even last few months, as the dog that nobody could stand.

No Dog is Ever too Young or too Old For Training!

Studies have proven that a dog’s ability to be trained does NOT depend on whether he is a nine-week-old pup or a nine-year-old adult dog. With proper training and following dog psychology, any dog can be taught right from wrong. For instance, you can easily teach your dog the rules of your house and exactly how you want it to behave. It doesn’t really matter what age, breed, size or even what happened in your dog’s past. If your dog has been abused, neglected, or maybe even had the pleasure of getting away with murder with everyone all this time , with proper guidance and persistence, he will soon realize that was then and this is NOW. Don’t forget, dogs live in the moment and not in the past. 

If your dog is NOT fully house-broken, lunges, pulls on the leash, gets aggressive towards other dogs or acts overprotective around your guests, I’m sure you’ll agree that all these traits fall under unacceptable behavior. These types of behavior need to be corrected—immediately! Why would you want to put up with such bad habits any longer than you have to? If a trainer made you feel hopeless just because your dog was too young or too old, you have been misled or are dealing with a trainer that lacks problem-solving skills. A qualified trainer can plan out a program to reduce or eliminate your dog’s embarrassing or unacceptable behavior once and for all. I do it all the time.

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I love what I do and don’t mind working hard. So give me your most challenging cases. Just don’t forget that no dog is too old, too young, or even too aggressive for me to NOT give it a second chance.
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Let me give you an example. Imagine that you have a seven-year-old dog that is in desperate need of training or behavior modification. The lifespan of most breeds is getting longer every year. Now, unless you own a Bernese mountain dog, a wonderful breed which sadly only has a life span of six to eight years, I’m sure you’ll agree that your dog could easily live another four to five years or more of its natural life. Now, ask yourself — do I really want to put up with my dog’s annoying bad habits for a few more month or even years? Are you one of those optimistic owners that hope your dog will somehow magically turn into Lassie as he gets older? If so, please wake up and smell the coffee! It’s more likely that your dog will get even worse as he ages.


What You Need to Know About My Doggie Boot Camp "Without the Boot":

I get lots of puppy owners who drop off or even ship their dogs directly from the breeder to me. Surprisingly, I am one of the few experts in the U.S. who will even talk to you if your puppy happens to be younger than four months old. Unfortunately, the majority of trainers aren’t knowledgeable in puppy management. This is because their whole focus and specialty rely on the “obedience” aspect of training. These trainers assume that your dog should housebreak itself, should stop mouthing on its own. And some  even believe that your dog will stop jumping on you and your guests. I think they are actually referring to when your dog gets arthritis or when he hits the two digit age, whichever comes first.

I want you to understand that I am not talking about JUST teaching your puppy to sit, lie down, or heel. In fact, having your pup obey commands might be the very last things on your list. Most owners find themselves frustrated the minute they put their pup on a leash. These puppies do what I call a “Psycho Dance.” They fight and bite the leash, put the brakes on, shake their heads side-to-side and act completely possessed. It reminds me of those head bangers you see at Heavy Metal concerts.

What If Your Puppy isn’t Current on All of its Vaccinations?

Most people think you must have your puppy current on all of his vaccinations in order for him to start any form of training. This is simply not true. You can have the trainer come to your home, as long as you don’t expose your puppy to the outdoors until he’s at least 4 months old, due to the risks of Parvo or other deadly viruses.
For example in our school, we take the same measure and precautions as “you” or the “breeder” would in keeping the pups’ surroundings completely clean and sanitized on a regular basis. This is the main reason why puppy owners contact us. Housetraining is usually at the very top of their list. You don’t need to put up with your pup’s unruly behavior and a stinky house for a few more weeks, let alone a few more months—unless you want to. Again, you’ll soon realize the more you put this off, the more it’s going to be a hassle to turn it around.

Don’t forget that just because a trainer said that you can’t teach a young puppy anything, doesn’t mean it’s the truth. Remember, your puppy—whether you do anything or not—is constantly learning. You definitely don’t want that learning to include getting away with even more bad habits or finding ways to cause you more headaches and frustrations.

If you still can’t find anyone to help you with your pup’s needs, then we’ll gladly help you. If you are not lucky enough to live in Sacramento, CA, then you might want to drive or ship your pup to me and watch me do my magic on your cute little doggie. Right now, your cute puppy is probably doing lots of cute poo poo and cute pee pee everywhere, which I’m sure, is a big “NO-NO.”


12. You Truly Are in Charge, but Not One Hundred Percent of the Time:

I’ve been to thousands of families’ homes and noticed something very interesting. I found that the man of the house was in charge in about two or three out of every twenty families. In the other seventeen or eighteen homes the woman was always in charge of making that final decision. Think about it. These women may not be taller or physically stronger than their husbands, yet all it takes is one dirty look and the rest is history. A few even curled up their lip and growled, and that’s when the poor husband looked down immediately while tucking his tail between his legs.
Even if you are in charge of your dog eighty to ninety percent of the time, admit it, that’s just not the same as a hundred percent. And trust me, that ten or twenty percent you let your dog get away with something makes a HUGE difference in how much your dog listens to you in general.

For you ladies out there, being in charge of your doggie is just like being in charge of your man. Think about it. If you are in charge of your dog eighty percent of the time, that certainly is better than nothing. But until you are in charge one hundred percent of the time, your dog will continue to challenge you. As your dog realizes that you are only in charge eighty percent, that gets pushed to seventy and then sixty and then… well, you get the picture. You need a hundred percent authority or nothing! This doesn’t mean all of sudden you need to become a drill sergeant with your dog, it’s just say what you mean and mean what you say. The idea is to be firm, but also kind.

I once asked a client of mine, “So who wears the pants in here, you or your husband?” She answered, “Oh Kev, he definitely wears the pants in this house. I just tell him which pants to wear.” By the way, in England they call pants “trousers.” Just in case you British men play dumb with me and say, “Nobody wears any pants in this house.” Have a nice cup of tea and think twice pal. That is if your woman lets you. I just love Earl Grey with a slice of lemon and a teaspoon of honey.


13.  Your Dog Gets His Way with Snapping and Growling at You:

You try to move your dog off your lap or push him off the couch and suddenly he growls at you and shows you a nice set of canines. He may even lunge at you with a vengeance! You jump back as fast as you can and think to yourself, “HOLY COW! I guess I’ll leave you alone, you brat!” Let’s think doggie logic for a moment. Your dog is thinking, “I will move whenever “I” darn well feel like it, woman. You got that? GRRRRRRRR.”
You see, every time your dog growls and lunges at you and actually gets away with it, you lose. And your cute dog wins! Yes, more like a cute CUJO.

This is a very dangerous behavior that if left alone not only stays the same, but in most cases gets even worse. I doubt that you want your dog’s bad behavior to go from worse to worst! These are the dogs that need the help of an expert who specializes in dealing with dominant and aggressive tendencies. An average trainer, with average skills, average experience, and working with average dogs, doesn’t stand an average chance. Many trainers who prefer to teach only the obedience component, refer these dogs to me. This is because they are not as experienced in dealing with aggressive dogs, or they simply don’t want to deal with such cases. They only deal and play with cute puppies and deal with teaching commands and run lots of socialization classes. Besides, pet store trainers seldom accept aggressive dogs for liability reasons. In contrast, I love the challenge and have dealt with hundreds of these cases. The reality is, just about anybody can tell you to get rid of your poor dog. We need to get rid of the problem and save your dog. (Be sure to read chapter on Red Zone Dogs for more on this topic right here on our site.)


14. Your Dog is Shy, Sensitive, Abused or Acts This Way to Win Your Symphaty:

When training your dog, you really need to know when to push and when to back off! Some dogs act as if you are killing them. Some have even managed to fool me for a second or two. I’ve had dogs that were sent to me for Boarding & Training that screamed and howled in their kennel as if their paw was stuck or something. As I rushed to see what’s going on, all I found was a dog standing, panting, and looking with those big googly eyes. I always nickname the males “Oscar,” as in an Oscar Winning performance. And the females, “Emmy” as in an Emmy Award nominee. So if you have a dog with Oscar and Emmy award potential, you’ll need to learn how to tell if your pet is just acting or not. In most cases, it truly takes a “Trained Eye” with years of experience. Average owners often get tricked and manipulated by their smart dogs.

Keep in mind that the majority of the dogs are very good at giving you that innocent look, sad eyes and a heart-melting whimper. Some even turn their back to you. They’ll desperately try to make you feel awful for making them follow your rules or obey commands. It’s even worse if you happen to be one of those owners that see their dog as a “furry baby” rather than a “dog.” You see, just like kids, dogs can be quite manipulative and eventually figure out what “works” on you. Most kids try to get away with things by working their parents. Didn’t you or your siblings try to pull some moves on your poor parents? Sure you did!

Some dogs truly are that shy, scared or sensitive, but some are just great actors. I’ve seen dogs even fake a limp when they wanted someone to feel sorry for them. An experienced trainer can always tell the difference. Keep in mind that when dogs truly get scared or nervous, just like us, they don’t respond well. Can you blame them?


15.  You Overlooked Your Dog's Body Language Reading Skills:

Words can be deceiving and commands can get mixed up, but body language, yes… body language NEVER lies. You can often get the truth from body language. In fact, it’s very hard to fake it. For example, you can tell a lot by the way someone walks, stands, or even sits. How they shake your hand, whether they lean back, forward, cross their legs, or whether they fidget repeatedly. How about the way someone stands? Pay attention to whether they have their arms crossed, resting on their hips or if they are holding their arms in back. How someone looks at you or tries to avoid making eye contact says a lot about them too. Sometimes you don’t even have to hear what a person is saying.

We men do this to women all the time. You could say that we are good observers, but poor listeners. The truth is we are very good at PRETENDING that we heard you loud and clear. Our secret is to keep on saying, “Hmm,” “WOW,” “Is that right?” “NO, she didn’t” and my favorite of all, “You’ll figure it out honey. Just go with your intuition.” And you are good to go and won’t end up on the Dr. Phil Show. (Too bad most book readers are women and only a few of us will get this advice.)

Now let’s see how your doggy reads you based on “your” body language. If you train your dog by bending over, kneeling down, blocking your dog with your body or by following her with your face, you are doing it all wrong. This kind of behavior actually gives your dog the control.

It makes me laugh every time I see owners AND even some trainers get on their knees and slap the ground in an attempt to get the dog to lie down. Hello? The dog already knows where the floor is and what you’re talking about. He’s just playing dumb. And you certainly don’t need to have her follow your finger all the way to the ground either. This is tricking your dog into thinking that you are holding some kind of treat. When you really think about it, it isn’t fair at all. When your dog lies down for you without any yelling, hitting, or bribery, this shows that he has accepted you as the one in charge and submits to you out of respect. The only time you should break your back is while patting or praising your dog, or if you happen to be dealing with an extremely fearful dog.

Here’s an example: You wouldn’t approach a scared or shy dog by standing erect with your hands on your waist, would you? I hope not. Most of us know that this is a very dominant and intimidating stance. Most likely you would bend or squat down hoping the doggy would sniff you and not see you as a potential threat. Dogs are masters at reading not only dogs’ but even humans’ body language. You must be able to recognize the appropriate situations when you need to stand up straight and when you need to get down low.

Another factor most owners overlook with long-haired dogs is eye contact. If your dog’s hair is covering its eyes, you probably won’t be able to properly communicate with it. Your dog could have difficulty reading your body language, your hand signals, body language, facial expressions or even worse miss other dogs’ body language and behavior. The rule of thumb should be: If you can’t see your dog’s eyes, he can’t see yours either. This is especially important if your dog happens to suffer from hearing loss or has gone completely deaf due to old age or an illness.


16.  Your Dog Has "Trust Issue" Toward Other Dogs or Even Toward People:

This isn’t necessarily the same as your dog being shy, scared, nervous or even sensitive. Your dog is just not certain whether to submit, fight, flee or make friends with you or others. She is still not sure about you and she’s trying to carefully observe you. Are you loud, friendly, mean, strong, consistent, psycho or just dumb? How is your training technique? If your training skills are not the real deal, your dog will see your weaknesses and take advantage of you.

I have noticed with our board and train dogs, that as I am evaluating the dog’s temperament and level of training, the dog is also carefully observing “me.” Trust is a big factor for most of us and it’s not much different when it comes to our dogs. We have to trust someone in order to accept them as our friend, mate, or even as our leader. Dogs think in a very similar way. How do you build your dog’s trust? Well, with fearful, shy and abused dogs, you should use tasty treats, plenty of love, and nonthreatening body language or posture.

Note: This is one of those rare situations in which you canuse treats as a bribe. In this case, treats are used as a motivator to gain the dog’s trust and confidence. And with other dogs… oh, come on. You don’t expect me to reveal all of my secrets in here do you? I couldn’t do that even if I wanted to. There is so much learn and not enough room to fit them all in reason number 17.


17.  Your Training Routine is Long, Boring and Predictable:

That’s right, dogs get bored too! If you make your training exercises too long or predictable and always practice them at the same time of the day and at the same location, your dog will most likely figure you out and get bored out of his mind.

Don’t believe me? Try this: Tell your dog to sit for you twenty times in a row. You’ll see that the more you make him do it, the slower and less responsive he’ll become. Don’t be surprised if you notice him giving you a dirty look. He may just walk away or lie down and refuse to get back up to the point of playing “the dead fish game.” He might even snaps back at you. If your dog could talk, he’d be yelling, “Oh come on now! I already did it fifteen times, didn’t I? Where’s the cookie? You know that I don’t work for FREE! Leave me alone. Don’t you get it? I am done, FINITO!” For some strange reason, they always say that last part in Italian.

Challenge your dog and yourself. Get creative and outgoing in your routine. Don't be predictable. Start training your dog in different parts of your house. Once he responds well every time and anywhere in your home, only then, move on to outdoor settings. Don't leave out the front yard, the back yard, by the fence, in your neighborhood, a local park, and around kids play grounds. This is how you'll be able to improve on your dog's command response. You'll soon notice this keeps the training fresh and exciting, and puts you ahead of the average dog owner. Don't forget that for any extra effort you put into your dog's training, you'll get extra results.


18.  Your Dog isn't Comfortable or Doesn’t Feel Well to Respond As Expected:

This can be caused by something as minor as a weather that is too hot, too cold, or even too windy. That’s right, windy. For some reason, dogs act very agitated when it’s too windy. And of course there will be times when your dog is truly sick. Maybe he had to have surgery, needed to get a few stitches or caught some sort of virus. If you know your dog’s going to be in heat, you better believe your training will NOT go smoothly. When you have a bitch in heat, she will act more moody, feisty or try to chew her way out of your yard. This may come as a shock to most of you, but many breeders believe that dogs can smell a dog in heat up to three miles away. This often results in agitating the male and female dogs in that vicinity.

Even super-trained, altered dogs can’t always focus when a bitch in heat is nearby. So please make sure your dog isn't in any kind of discomfort or physical pain and is in perfect health before you start barking out a bunch of commands at him. Think about how you function when you are sick. Some people are able to keep themselves together, but not all of us.

I’ll never forget a day, years ago, when I noticed a little blood in the stool of one of my Shepherds. At the time, I didn’t think much of it and found out the hard way that he definitely wasn’t himself that day. I took him to his protection training class and, without any warning, he snapped at one of the instructors. Obviously it was a big deal then and I should not have ignored it. Poor dog clearly did not feel well and took his discomfort out on the trainer. I learned my lesson and this has never happened since.

It’s amazing how well dogs read our body language, observe our behavior and, of course, pick up from our energy. If you or anyone else in your household is not feeling well, your dog can always sense it. So whether it is you or your dog that is feeling sick or perhaps you are having a bad day, it’s best to skip the training for the day. Get some rest or do something fun or weird instead, like jumping naked on a trampoline around two in the morning. That’s what works for me! Just kidding, I don’t even have a trampoline. I do it without it.


19. You Are Using the Wrong Tool or Even Worse, Rely on NO Tool Whatsoever:

Dogs today are smarter, stronger and more agile than ever. This is due to drastic improvements in the quality of breeding, veterinarian care, dog food, and dog medicine. What’s sad is, people are lazier, busier, fatter and more out of shape than ever. You want to supersize that? Go king? Jumbo? Add sour cream? Bacon? I say, “I want all that with a small diet Coke.” At least I always carry my own side of organic Ranch dressing for my fries. Those darn fast food places never carry anything organic. Now that I've made you hungry or grossed out, back to the dogs.

So it’s a no-brainer that our doggies definitely have an upperhand over our fat a**es. How can we increase the odds to our favor, you ask? By simply using a training tool that gets your dog’s attention even around the most tempting distractions you can imagine.

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Most trainers will agree that using the training tool that is a “best fit” for your
dog’s personality always speeds up your progress.

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Some of these tools include:

* Correct leash (not retractable, knotted or chain, and not too thick or thin)
* Proper type of collar (preferably buckle, not Velcro or snaps)
* Long rope (for teaching a dog to respond from a distance)
* Proper size crate (for potty-training, to prevent marking & destructiveness)
* Wee Wee Pads (for potty-training small breeds & apartment dogs)
* Doggy gate (to set boundaries and limitations)
* Doggy door (to allow your dog to enter or exit without your assistance)
* Exercise pen aka playpen (for potty training and to prevent destructiveness)
* Wire mesh pet pen cover (to prevent dog from jumping out – special order)
* Dog run (for containment and to prevent yard damage)
* Choke chains (often used for training or show confirmation)
* Pinch collars (often used for training and disciplining stubborn dogs)
* Bark collars (used to help control barking, supervised or not)
* Chain leashes or tie down cable (for dogs that chew up their leashes)
* Shaker cans (to stop and control unwanted behavior)
* Spray bottle/squirt gun (often used to stop or control small dogs' bad habits)
* Vehicle backseat fence (to keep dog contained in the back of your car)
* Seat belt harness (to keep dog buckled up while you drive)
* Muzzles (to prevent destructive chewing or serious biting)
* Electronic collars (often used for training and to stop unwanted behavior)
* Boundary control units (designed to keep dogs from jumping fences)
* Electronic or electric fence (often used for boundary and perimeter control)

The last few tools are designed to keep dogs contained in your front or back yard. They are very useful if you live where traditional fencing is not allowed. These devices can also be used to keep your dog away from your pool, spa, plants or garden. You’ve probably seen dogs controlled with this tool. No matter what, they don’t leave their front yard. This doggie isn’t necessarily trained or on a “stay" command per se. Unlike an electric fence, where you can see the wire, the newer ones have a wire hidden underground. Just look for a little black box attached to the dog’s collar. That is the sensor that gives the naughty dog a beep as a warning if he gets too close to the wire, which will give him a little jolt.

Some owners rely on this tool to stop their dogs from chasing dogs, cars, cats, joggers, kids and to stop them from bolting out. Don’t worry, the intensity of the shock is not harmful and doesn't have any short or long-term side-effects. On good quality devices, the stimulation of these collars is adjustable and never high enough to make your dog look like a smoked cartoon character with spiky hair. Some dogs only respond to this device and nothing else. As you can see, technology definitely has its advantages and it’s no different when it comes to the world of dog training.

The “Worst-of-the-Worst Training Tools on the Market:

The most useless and annoying dog training tools in pet stores have to be the retractable leash, the harness and the clicker. What’s funny is almost all dog owners either currently use one of these tools or have used them in the past. I am certain that if your dog is unruly, one of the reasons is that you are walking it with a retractable leash or, even worse, the retractable leash is also hooked up to your dog’s cool harness. Both of these tools offer no control whatsoever to stop your dog’s pulling or lunging when he gets distracted or agitated by other dogs, cats, or even when faced with a friendly visitor.

Things usually get even worse when you two are faced with dogs that act aggressive toward you or your doggie. In fact, your dog can pull you much better and more comfortably with a harness and a retractable leash. So my point is that certain tools work, and certain ones do not. Some work for a while and some, especially when you “really” need them to work, won’t even faze your dog.

There is a tool designed for every dog. Find what matches your dog’s physical capabilities, intelligence, prey drive, stubbornness and your expectations. And of course there is also the use and misuse of certain training tools that are more popular among trainers. I am talking about: the choke collar, pinch/prong collar, electronic collar, Gentle Leader, Halti, Martingale, Easy Walk Harness, or, once again, that nonsense clicker.

Serious Flaws About Harnesses and Head Halters:

The use of a harness only results in restraining your dog. Let me ask you this: Would you rather “train” your dog or restrain it? Just about any moron can restrain a dog. It doesn’t require much skill or technique. Also, harnesses are designed for dogs that pull and guide. Dogs for weight-pulling competition, search and rescue, and even dogs for the blind are all wearing something very similar to a harness. This allows the dog to pull and lead without putting much effort into it. You’ll even notice them being used with some attack-trained dogs.

Now, head halters, which are known as the Gentle Leader or the Halti, are not much different from harnesses. It is the same “restraining” concept as the face halter for horses, goats or Alpacas. Folks, it’s a dog we’re dealing with, for crying out loud--not an Alpaca! When you carefully observe this tool, you’ll notice that the Gentle Leader isn’t as gentle as it sounds after all. Most of the time, due to your dog’s constant pulling and fighting, it leaves a dent on your dog’s snout that keeps on irritating and sometimes even bleeds when you take it for a walk. Some dogs have a bald spot on their muzzle for the rest of their lives. There also have been reports of dogs with neck and spine injuries due to the use of this tool. This is because the dog’s neck is designed to take a lot of pressure and even a bit of abuse from other dogs, but not in the spine.

Another downside in using head halters is that dogs never seem to get used to wearing them. They always scratch their snout, shake their head side to side as if they are fighting demons, and rub their nose on the grass desperately trying to take it off.

By training your dog with a head halter, you will have an extremely tough time getting it reliably off-leash trained. This is because your dog will always know when he has it on or off. You cannot leave it on to a point where the dog forgets about it. Many have been known to chew them up from the corners of their mouths and rip them off their faces in a matter of seconds. This especially happens the minute you run into another dog, cat, squirrel or even a kid on a bicycle. Let me give you another example that, as some say, “would seal the deal once and for all.”

You see, just like you forget that you are wearing a watch, earrings, Bluetooth, glasses or even a thong (OK, maybe not a thong,) your dog can and will get used to wearing a collar, choke collar, or even a pinch collar. This is because every single one of these tools are designed to fit around your dog’s “neck.” In fact, any dog WILL eventually forget that he or she has it on. Now here’s where it gets interesting: You cannot create the same kind of feeling with a head halter or a harness! Which is the main reason it is extremely difficult to get dogs reliably off-leash trained with the use of Gentle Leaders, Haltis or harnesses. Most of the dogs that I usually get for training, I find the head halter in their poop. Some of them chew up the Gentle Leader and even pee on it. (So much for gentle.)

But all kidding aside, if the Gentle Leader or Halti works for you and your dog, and especially if you think your dog is just too strong, too big, or maybe you suffer from a bad shoulder, had some kind of surgery, have arthritis, tendinitis, carpal tunnel syndrome, or any other kind of physical limitations, then yes, by all means I agree that restraining your dog is far better than having him get loose, causing you chaos and embarrassment.


If You Want a “Mean Dog” Image Then Gentle Leader or a Halti is Your Tool!


Here’s another hard-to-ignore fact: Choke chains, pinch collars and electronic collars make YOU look like a wicked or mean dog owner. Head halters make YOUR DOG look aggressive or unpredictable! Most people are not familiar with head halters, so they automatically assume that you have a muzzle on your dog. And yes, you guessed it, people behave the same around dogs with muzzles as they do around people wearing straightjackets. They will think your dog is unbalanced or maybe even a bit psycho. Everybody will automatically assume you are walking “Cujo,” and will get out of your way. So your head halter is a great tool if you want to intimidate people. I don’t think you’d want to carry a sign with you every time you put that Gentle Leader or Halti on your dog that reads, “Don’t worry people: My dog is not wearing a muzzle, this is just a tool to stop him from pulling me.”

So which do you prefer? Would you rather look like a cruel dog owner or would you rather have the whole world think that you have a crazy, unpredictable dog? I rest my case!

DO NOT Be Fooled! Clicker Training is Just Bribery in Disguise:

Unless you are mute, there is nothing wrong with using your voice! I have an article on my website dedicated entirely to clicker training. It explains why this method works best for people with three hands; one to hold the leash, one to hold the treats, and another to press the clicker until your sore thumb falls off. It also explains why this method always stops working. Besides, most people can’t even find their leash when they need it and will most likely misplace that clicker too. So unless you suffer from bronchitis, laryngitis, or some other physical problem that prevents you from giving commands, it is far more practical to rely on your voice from the get-go. You see, it’s unlikely that you’ll ever misplace your voice, but it’s very likely that you’ll keep misplacing that stupid clicker.

Now, Which Tools Do Top Trainers AND Breeders Swear By?

This may come as a surprise to most of you, but there is one tool that virtually all top trainers and breeders in the world use. It’s the choke or pinch collar. If you don’t believe me, research it for yourself. Do you think these folks know anything about dogs? Of course they do! These trainers and breeders adore their dogs and would never do ANYTHING that would cause any physical or psychological harm to their pooches. Some of them love their dogs even more than their spouses. Their whole life revolves around their dogs. These are the dogs that are groomed at their best and eat the best dog food money can buy. And of course they are trained with the best, or should I say, “The most effective training tools available.” And these tools are rarely a head halter, harness, retractable leash, or even a clicker. They rely on the proper and humane use of the choke or pinch collar. Again, don’t take my word for it; you can easily research this for yourself.

Now I want you to answer this question: If the top breeders and trainers in the industry believe in the humane and nonviolent use of these tools, why should YOU limit your options? Again, you should use whatever tool that gets your dog’s attention and enables you to control him—under any circumstance. That is just being diverse and smart.

Diverse Trainers’ Choice of Tools:

Trainers who advocate the “Diverse Method” will not restrict your options. They will be open-minded and even encourage you to try different tools. This is the easiest way to find which tools are the best match for you and your dog. You see, it is one thing for “me” to be able to control your dog with a particular tool, but it can be a totally different story when “you” try to use the same tool all by yourself. After all, it is your dog, and she should respond the same way to you as she responds to me or my trainers.

HINT: You’ll know you are using the right training tool when it gets your dog’s attention anywhere, anytime and in front of ANY distraction. Now I want you to really think about this. If the tool you are using can manage to make your dog obey or submit to you around all kinds of distractions including dogs, cats, visitors, joggers, cars driving by, and your mail carrier, then that’s a tool you must rely on. This seems like common sense to most of you, but you’d be amazed how many dog owners don’t go by this logic. You’ll soon realize that the use of proper tools, combined with your great attitude and training techniques, will get you remarkable results. Think diverse and you’ll be flawless.

In our school, whether an owner chooses our private lessons or the doggie boot camp, we follow the same procedures. First we examine your dog’s personality, energy level, size, strength, prey drive, sensitivity, and stubbornness. Then we see how it matches up to “your” personality, lifestyle, coordination or any physical limitations you may have. This evaluation helps us recommend the tools that most likely will be the best fit for you and your dog.
Most diverse trainers can help you with this process. They are usually educated about the pros and cons of many different tools on the market and can teach you how to use each tool correctly. They will help you try each tool to see which works best. It’s important to test various tools to see which deliver the best level of compliance from your dog. It’s especially important to test your dog’s command response around real-world distractions with each tool. Bottom line, their expertise will help you find the best tool—one that your dog will respond to every time and in every situation. That is the flexibility you’ll come to appreciate from diverse trainers.

Let’s face it, it’s impossible to get the exact same level of response from different training tools. So the smartest thing to do is try lots of different tools to find which is the best fit. Before trying lots of tools, make sure that you have been properly educated as to how it actually works. Make sure that you use each tool correctly and humanely.

Remember, just about any training tool will work in a “distraction free” environment. Until you honestly try them all in different situations, you won’t really know which one is the best of them all! 

20.  You Have the Wrong Attitude, Your Dog Senses it, and Even Uses it to His Advantage. (This is the most important reason of them all!)

You need to have a winning attitude. I know this might remind you of your coach or some motivational speaker, but don’t automatically assume that your dog is un-trainable or perhaps even a bit slow. Let me reassure you that NO BREED of dog is un-trainable. I know some of you might feel like your dog was bred to be a “pain in the behind.” Sometimes you just can’t help but compare your dog to your friends’ dogs or maybe even one of your previous dogs. But every dog is different. Just as you don't deserve to be compared to your brothers and sisters, your dog doesn't deserve to be compared to other dogs.

It doesn’t even matter what size of dog you have. If you happen to own one of those giant breeds, you still should be able to assert your leadership. I’ve known dog owners whose dogs outweigh them by twenty to forty pounds, yet they are still in complete control of their dog. What I find fascinating is it always starts with their positive attitude. It’s not about how tall, how short, or even how tough you really are; it’s all about how you think and act.

I once saw a comedian on television who happened to be a short fella. He said, “Not everyone respects short people… Heck, even short people don’t always respect short people.” People always say, “don’t judge a book by its cover,” but we do it all the time. You see, when you are only this strong, this tall, or this consistent, your dog will definitely try to challenge you. Dogs tend to do this more with those who lack authority or the ability to tower over them. And that’s where you have to rely on a strong will.

You might have noticed that Tom Cruise is not very tall. Ask anyone who has met him in person or pay close attention next time you see him on the screen or in magazines. He may be short, but by the way he talks, walks, acts, and even fights in the movies, you actually start to believe that he could kick anybody’s butt in a matter of seconds. People always guess me older, taller and sometimes even lighter than my actual weight. Or maybe they are just being nice. I honestly do think of myself taller than my actual height and I see myself older and hopefully wiser than my real age. I’m sure you’ll agree that most of these judgments are based on how you talk, walk, think, and even who you hang out with. I always say, “Show me your friends and I’ll predict your future. And if you have no friends whatsoever, that’s not a good future either.”

In conclusion, most women are already “in charge.” They naturally have a leader mindset. But, if you are a female reading this and you let your dog push you around, don’t feel bad. You are definitely not alone. After all, you are in charge of your household, in charge of your man, but not in charge of your dog. Isn’t that frustrating? I am not being sexist here; this is the case the majority of the time.

One interesting pattern I’ve noticed over the years of working with males and females is that women are usually the ones who actually admit that they need help training their dogs. Ask any dog expert. If it weren’t for the ladies, we would have been out of business a long time ago! Unlike men, women actually ADMIT that they don’t know what they are doing and that’s one of the things I truly admire about them. Now men, on the other hand… men, men, men. Love them or hate them, we are definitely wired differently. Why do you think we never ask for directions? It’s because we would have to admit that we are lost. The fact is, we were never lost in the first place. We just wanted to “explore” a different route. Is it wrong to be curious and try a new route in the middle of nowhere? Who cares if we are tired, hungry and nearly out of gas? Why do you think most GPS systems use a woman's voice?

Speaking of traveling, those of you who haven’t traveled much outside the U.S., you just don’t know how great a country we’re living in. The more you travel outside the U.S. the more you’ll appreciate it. In my opinion, America, hands down, is the best country in the world. It may not have the best-trained dogs, but don’t worry, we’ll get there. So next time your neighbors complain about your barking dogs or the economy being bad. Just say, “Hey, pal, this is America. Love it or leave it!”

Have I Missed Something You're Struggling With? If So, Please Let Me Know!
But I Seriously Doubt it. . .

You see, the term “trained” could mean different things to different people. It could mean housetrained, leash trained, obedience trained, off-leash trained, trained to have good manners, trained to know which room or which part of your house your dog is allowed in and, of course, trained to be friendly with other dogs and with your guests. If you believe your dog is stupid, you are most likely wrong. It could be that your dog is just a bit more stubborn than you anticipated. Dog owners confuse these two all the time. In fact, I rarely run into dumb dogs. I am not saying this just to make you feel better. I know this from training thousands of dogs

IMPORTANT: Treat Trainers are highly skilled in coming up with different excuses why your dog failed their bribery method. They will try to convince you that it is either your fault or your dog’s fault for not getting any noticeable results. Don’t fall for it.

You know your dog better than anyone else does. And I have no doubt in my mind that you can tell the difference from when your dog’s playing dumb and when she’s just being stubborn. When the yummy treats and timeouts stop working, “positive trainers” come up with ridiculous excuses. Some of them act like a veterinarian or a behaviorist and swear that your dog suffers from some sort of chemical imbalance, early malnourishment or poor breeding. You may even hear some recommend drugs for your dog.

Folks, everybody knows that drugs come with their wonderful side effects and aren’t a natural alternative. We humans deal with the side effects of drugs all the time. Besides, drugs often mask many symptoms, covering up the “root cause” of the problem. To solve diarrhea, the drug may also cause dizziness and vomiting. What a solution! So once I am dizzy, light-headed and vomiting left and right, who cares if I can’t make it to the bathroom in time? I won’t even comprehend that I pooped my pants.

Each year millions experience negative side effects from their medications and wonder if they were better off before downing all those pills. Just pay close attention to the disclaimers on commercials and read the fine print in magazine ads. The blue pill Viagra might help you down below, but did you know that many of its possible side effects include: hearing loss, sudden blindness, stroke or even a heart attack?

Now, do you honestly think your dog will be able to tell you what else is wrong with him after being on doggy Prozac? So be sure that you do your homework before you start relying on drugs.

I’ve turned around many cases that other experts labeled as un-trainable, untrustworthy, or even hopeless. Some of these trainers told the owners that their dog would either need to be muzzled for the rest of his life or put to “sleep.” Wait a minute! This is killing the dog, not putting him to sleep. Am I missing something here? Let’s not sugarcoat it. We are not talking about a fight where someone drops the other guy like a bad transmission and he goes nighty-night. I am sick of hearing these terms. Now if your dog is too old, too injured or too sick to be saved, please feel free to use these humane terms. But if you are just giving up on your dog and deciding his fate, please don’t say that you had to put him down or to sleep!

I am proud of being the very “last hope” for hundreds of dogs. To some of these owners, the dogs were clearly a part of the family. And to some, they were just a dog. For most of my clients, giving up on their dog is NOT an option.

One of my clients called the ASPCA to ask for suggestions on what to do with her dog’s aggression toward other dogs. She told me she didn’t even get a chance to finish her sentence when the woman cut her off, saying, “Sure. Just bring him by and we’ll put him down for you.” My client was heartbroken. She told me, “Kevin, it sounded as if she was eating her lunch and sipping on her soda.” And here you thought they are supposed to love dogs and educate people on different alternatives. Sadly, this isn’t always the case.

Just imagine if numerous doctors diagnosed you or any of your loved ones with an incurable disease. But there was just one expert who, despite others’ skepticism, promised to cure you. Only one. Would you still doubt him? It’s hard not to. But would you give him an honest chance? Probably. This is no different from the majority of owners who seek my help with their dogs.

What If “"Everyone"” Tells You to Give Up on Your Dog?

Dog owners are always telling me things like, “Every trainer that I’ve worked with told me that my dog will never be able to __________.” (You fill in the blank.) Or they say, “All dog schools I tried up to this point ignored my dog and forgot about me in the corner of the class." Some have told me, “I’ve consulted with all these experts and every one of them told me that there is just no hope!” How and why can I offer a different outcome? My reply is always the same: “That is THEIR opinion and it shows the so-called expert’s expertise in dealing with that particular problem or issue.” In most cases, this is only their assumption. You see, you can’t call it a fact unless you’ve tried everything within your power with little or absolutely no success to change your dog’s behavior. Then and only then can you call it a fact, and even then, there still might be something else you could have tried if you had known about it. I usually end up telling these owners, “Either you can give me and your dog another chance or accept what everyone else tells you. The choice is yours.”

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What surprised many doubting trainers is how I managed to turn around challenging cases without yelling, hitting, bribery or even the use of drugs. It’s fair to say I must be doing something right!
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Let’s not forget that, according to these reputable “experts,” most of these dogs were hopeless. So I guess that makes me some kind of miracle worker. Or maybe I just got lucky. Folks, it is rarely luck. I know this may sound like bragging, but it is also a fact. Mohammad Ali said it best, “It's not bragging if you can back it up.”

As you can probably tell by now, one of my favorite TV shows is Dr. Phil. In one episode, he featured deaf-blind triplets. You read correctly. Triplets who are both deaf and blind. But the most amazing part of their story to me is the dedication and the love they get from their mom and her boyfriend. Imagine taking care of someone who is deaf and blind? Now try taking care of not one, not two, but THREE of these precious babies all at the same time. They are the world’s first deaf and blind triplets. Why did I bring this up, you ask? My point is simple: when people are that dedicated, they will go through hell to make things work. You need to be committed to your dog and believe in him. Giving up is easy. I’ve also known of parents who got rid of their kids. I’m hoping that’s rare too.

Now, whether your dog is bright or slow, cute or ugly, bald or fluffy, big or small, friendly or vicious, you can still stop or at least reduce all of these bad habits:

• Jumping up on you and others
• Peeing and pooping where NOT allowed
• Lunging every time he sees an aggressive or friendly dog
• Dragging you on a leash for the first two blocks of the walk
• Begging and stealing food off counters
• Barking constantly in your presence or absence
• Ignoring your commands
• Knocking down the kids with no sense of weight or size
• Attacking your other dogs
• Chasing cats, cars, squirrels, bicycles and kids
• Encouraging poor joggers to jog even faster
• And worst of all, growling and snapping at strangers, or at you and your loved ones

If your dog acts out of control, most likely it is because you let it behave that way. And if your dog is well-mannered and sets a great role model for other dogs, it’s also because you put in hours of training and behavior modification to make it happen. Dog owners rarely “get lucky” with a well-mannered dog. Just as polite kids don’t just fall out of the sky, neither do well-behaved dogs.

People will always judge you based on how your dog behaves. You always say, “Oh, he’s my baby.” Or “She’s my girl.” Then make sure your baby isn’t going to kill OTHER babies and is under your complete control. Don’t you hate parents who have no control over their kids? Believe me, most people feel the same way about your dog not being under your control. When it comes to being a responsible adult for a child or a pooch, providing a home, food, water and medical bills is only half of the story. Teaching manners, yes, proper manners and etiquette are just as important and necessary. But sadly, many owners overlook them.

You can’t get much farther if you don’t know where you are at this very moment. Whether you are a first-time dog owner, experienced dog owner, a part-time trainer, or even a dedicated professional, these twenty reasons let you know EXACTLY where you stand and why you aren’t getting the noticeable results you desire.

 

Written by International Trainer and Dog Psychologist, Kevin "The Dog Prodigy"

Taken from Kevin's Book, "Hidden Secrets Behind Dog Training"


We all die. The goal isn't to live forever, the goal is to create something that will.”

--Chuck Palahniuk



This Book Gives You a Totally New Perspective About:

1. Yourself - Your thoughts, beliefs and perception of your current and previous dogs.
2. Your Dog - Why and how your dog thinks and responds in different scenarios.
3. Your Method – Unravel the strengths and weaknesses of different techniques.
4. Your Tools – Which training tools work and which eventually stop working.
5. Your Trainer - Their philosophy, expertise, expectations and limitations.
6. The Dog Training Industry – How to use the system to your advantage.
It took ten years of hard work, intense research, and studying thousands of cases
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My Mission: To Find All the Reasons Why Dogs Didn't Thrive to Their Fullest Potential.

I was shocked to find that the "real cause" had very little to do with the dogs' age, breed,
size, intelligence, history, or even personality, but had everything to do with the
“human element.”

Dog owners and even dog trainers from all around the globe were skillfully misled, influenced and even brainwashed. Sadly, all this had a tremendous affect on their beliefs, attitude, technique, drive, sense of hope, creativity, and of course--their level of success.

Book's Description: This book takes a deeper look at modern dog training and canine psychology while it also introduces you to the next level and the future of training and canine behavior modification—“The Diverse Method.”

Think about it. If there are more than four hundred different breeds of dogs in this world, how can they possibly all respond to only one way of training? Have you ever considered that fact? You see, every dog was bred specifically for a purpose. So for any expert to argue that you can train EACH AND EVERY ONE with just Positive Reinforcement or Negative Reinforcement show their arrogance, lack of experience and diversity.

The secret is to follow a "Diverse Reinforcement" because, just as with humans, dogs don't always respond to a strictly positive or negative approach. Here's where it gets more interesting. All dog trainers know this, but don't or can't teach it in their training method.

!!! Now Did I Get Your Attention??? !!!

Look, you are definitely NOT going to be safe, smart or successful if you rely on just one way of training as a crutch. The key to greatness is to arm yourself with different training techniques that will prepare you for ANY dog, despite their age, size, strengths, intelligence, past history or personality. Again, I am talking about being "Diverse" because no method and no training tool is guaranteed to work in every situation and on every dog. That's just a fact! This is one of those rare books that will make you smile, make you laugh, make you think and even challenge you to push yourself far beyond your leash or your bag of treats. It is filled with life lessons along with my incredible journey with dogs from all walks of life.

If you are the sensitive type, you may get a few lumps in your throat. I've spent a decade writing this book, which inspired me to learn something new from every dog, every owner and every trainer I've encountered. So, in a way, the book has grown with me.

My hope is that when you finish it, both you and your dog will be able to communicate with one another much more effectively.

--Kevin "The Dog Prodigy"
Master Dog Trainer / Author


About the Author:


Kevin Salem is considered to be a prominent philosopher and one of the brightest minds in the world of dog training. It’s hard to paint Kevin’s image with the same brush as others, as his unique way of "Diverse Method" and philosophy, makes him very distinct.

Ever since he was young, Kevin has been able to relate and communicate with dogs in a very special way. You know when you meet a natural. We’ve all seen one. These individuals are rarely taught, but rather born. In over two decades of working with different breeds, he has successfully trained well over 10,000 dogs worldwide, earning him the nickname,“The Dog Prodigy.”

He is one of those rare experts in his field who has the knowledge and the expertise to accept challenging cases that the majority of dog schools simply don’t want to deal with. We are referring to “red zone dogs,” and those already given up on by many trainers, veterinarians and even animal behaviorists. He is proud of saving hundreds of these dogs from abandonment, shelters, or worse, euthanasia.

Kevin gained his experience from studying and practicing different methods of training. To expand his knowledge even further, he also compared the strengths and weaknesses of different theories from more than a hundred books on dog training, dog behavior, and canine psychology.

Mr. Salem currently operates his school, Dog Secrets, where he offers house calls not only throughout the US, but globally. You may also send your dog to his most popular program, the Doggie Boot Camp.

 

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