20 Reasons Why Most Dogs Just Don't Listen.
When it REALLY Matters, Your Dog Flat Out Ignores You!
From the Book - Hidden Secrets Behind Dog Training
(A Game-Changer in Dog Psychology!)
It's time to put an end to all the guesswork as to why your dog
plays dumb, deaf, or you swear you’ve become invisible,
especially when it comes to _________________ (fill in the blank).
I bet you had no idea that there are twenty factors.
This section is my favorite and the longest chapter of my book.
It can easily be a mini book of its own. Some call it the crown
jewels of the book. Let's see if you agree!
Reason #1:
Your Dog is Testing You or Doesn’t
Feel Like Listening
Maybe you've been the provider, the spoiler, the mommy, the daddy,
the buddy, the observer, or just the nagger, but definitely NOT
the leader.
If we could read the doggie’s thoughts in a bubble above
his head, it would read, “Oh come on. Who gave you the idea
that I should listen to YOU now? Sit down, shut up and give me
some treats or else I’ll pee and poo on your bed
tonight. Take that, you dog trainer wannabe!”
Even if you are somewhat in charge, your
dog rarely responds to you when it TRULY counts. This means he
is testing you or even worse, playing dumb at that moment
and at that location.
Reason #2:
You've Been Brainwashed into Using
Treats for Everything
“As long as you keep those treats coming, I’ll do
whatever you ask” is what crosses your dog’s mind
as you keep shoving goodies down his throat and call it training.
Be honest. Do you have your voice and praise with you at all
times or a bag of beef jerky? Even those trainers who advocate
bribery can't do much without their pouch of hot dogs. If you
don't believe me, challenge them on it and wait for that "deer
in the headlights" look.
This debate has already been discussed in great detail in chapter
four (Biggest Scam in Modern Dog Training). If you haven’t
read it, please do so. It is the most controversial chapter of
my book for a reason. Otherwise, it's like watching a movie halfway
through. You can’t always guess what happened earlier.
Reason #3:
You Are Mixing
Commands and Not Being Consistent
You or another member of your family isn’t
consistent or crystal clear with your commands. For example, one
day, to stop your dog's constant barking, you yell out his name
hoping that will do the trick. And the next, you change it to:
“Hey,” “Shush,” or “Knock it off.”
And when you finally lose it, you grab a shoe and start chasing
after your dog, screaming, "Shut the %$&# up!"
If the poor dog could talk, he'd say, “So
which is it? Sounds like you guys don't even know what you want!
How should I?”
One of the key elements in achieving solid results
is being clear and consistent with your dog.
Most owners and even some trainers practice every day
and still end up with a very weak or sloppy-trained dog.
Again, this could very well be due to poor communication and inconsistency
in your training method.
Reason #4:
You Thought All Along
that it Must Be Your "Voice"
Sorry, but there is no need to sound like your husband, boyfriend,
son, or your father-in-law in order for your dog to take you seriously.
In case you didn't know, over ninety percent of dog trainers in
America, and probably around the world, are actually women!
I find it funny when some of you sound like Mickey Mouse when
you are supposed to get firm with your dog, and growl like The
Hulk when you need to come across as friendly or non-threatening.
Many of you make the mistake of dragging out the command, like:
“Siiiiiiiiiit,” “Leave iiiiiiiiiiit,”
or “Dowwwwn.” But, by doing so, you actually sound
as if you are asking or singing to your dog.
Here's the Secret: There should be no melody
in your voice while giving a command. So if it sounds like a request,
a nag, or a drill sergeant, you've been misled. I always tell
my clients, “Don’t nag it, don't drag it, and certainly
don't shout it.”
Even some trainers make the mistake of raising their
voice while giving commands. Don't forget the undeniable fact
that dogs can hear three to four times better than us. So why
bother yelling at any living thing that can hear better
than both of us combined? Unless it is a real emergency,
save those lungs when you REALLY need to shout in order to get
your dog's attention.
It makes me laugh every time I see a guy yell out a command and
the walls in the room start to shake. All because the dog refused
to sit, stay or lie down. Take it easy. Nobody's getting killed,
for crying out loud. Trust me; you'll impress people far more
when they see your dog responding to your instructions in a
normal tone of voice. Let's face it; any moron can
scream!
Reason #5:
Your Dog is Spoiled. These Dogs
Always Challenge Authority
You've probably already read this on my (Spoiled Dog Test,)
and it can't hurt to bring it up again: Spoiled pooches, just
like spoiled kids, rarely listen to you or anyone else. These
dogs have you wrapped around their paw and they know
it. All it takes is a temper-tantrum of barking, whining, scratching,
jumping or bouncing back and forth; and you become hypnotized,
find yourself giving in to your dog.
Perhaps the reason you let your dog run the show is because he
happens to be too old, too young, too small, too handicapped or
just too darned cute. Or maybe your dog has had a rough past so
now you've given him a free pass to be a jerk or do as he pleases.
Some of you let your dog get away with murder because he's missing
a leg, an eye, or even worse, has a few months to live. The truth
is you can still modify ALL of your dog's bad habits
to meet your expectations. Cesar Millan said it best: “Dogs
don’t live in the past, but live in the moment.” Ironically,
they are known to adapt to any circumstance and lifestyle.
Be honest. Your dog knows
exactly what works on you and what doesn’t. So
if you constantly baby her, you’d better be prepared for
her to one day totally ignore you, or worse, embarrass you in
front of your guests or out in public. From experience, your dog
knows that you rarely follow through on what you say.
Sometimes it's the spoiler who comes to the rescue. And
I'm betting that person is most likely going to be your spouse,
one of the kids, a relative, or the grandparents. These dogs pee
and poo everywhere, beg for food, whine, and of course, use their
annoying bark to get your attention. Some go from snapping and
lunging, to full-on biting to make their point. (You
guessed it; they are a lot like spoiled kids. Hopefully your kids
don’t bite!)
Regardless of your method or philosophy, I think every
expert out there would agree that the more you spoil your dog,
the more he will ignore, challenge, attack people, other dogs,
or some day, may eventually turn on YOU!
Reason #6:
Your Training Technique
Lacks "Diversity"!
We’ve all heard the saying, "Practice makes perfect."
But if I get a bit technical here, it is actually correct
practice that will get you eye-catching results. In fact,
when you carefully study topnotch trainers, you’ll find
that they don’t always care about how often they work with
their dogs. To them, how you train is far more important!
Think of dancing for a minute. Anybody can hit the dance floor
and shake their booty and call it dancing. You see the same boring
moves over and over again. There is no skill, no technique, no
swag, no originality, and yet this person breaks a sweat honestly
believing that they're one of the best dancers in town.
Whether it is dancing or dog training, your technique, your
timing, your posture, your attitude and your willingness
to take constructive criticism, will ultimately determine your
raw success!
Now, don’t contact me for dancing lessons.
I love to watch others dance, but I don’t dance, run or
jog. Besides, I’ve watched enough Law & Order and know
too well that joggers are the ones who always find dead
bodies or become the victims of an assault. That’s why I’m
sitting safe and sound leaving my butt print on my couch, watching
"So You Think You Can Dance". And if you ever catch
me running, it means the dog is chasing the Dog Prodigy!
Reason #7:
Your Dog isn't Off-Leash
Trained to Listen From a Distance
Don't you have a doubt or that nagging fear of
how your dog may act once he gets loose? After all, no matter
how careful you are, someday, somehow, your dog will
run wild and play the “catch me if you can" game.
What's sad is even if you are the careful
or the responsible one in your family, you can't always depend
on your spouse, the kids, your roommate, or your gardener to close
the gate behind him. This is why being able to get your dog to
listen from a distance is a MUST!
It's even worse if you are one of those careless
owners who prefer to walk your untrained dog with
no leash. Ask yourself: Are you confident enough in his command
response when he's not within your reach? How about when out of
the blue another dog comes face-to-face with yours?
What if a kid wants to pet your dog, and he jumps
up on him to show his affection or to take a chunk out of him?
Don't forget the neighborhood cats, the squirrels, or if you live
in the country, the chickens, horses, skunks, bears or even sheep
and deer. And I'm sure there are some of you who put up with lots
of coyotes and mountain lions.
Sadly, the majority of dog owners are completely
helpless in these situations. Be my guest! Yell out, “NO,”
“HEY,” or “Get over here,” all you want,
but you can almost hear your dog laughing, “Yeah right.
You honestly expect me to listen to you when I’m not even
attached to anything? Suuuuuuuure. I don’t obey much when
I'm across the room or across the yard. So why should
I mind you when I'm totally free? Keep dreaming... human!”
This is what you get when you feel
sorry for your dog and let him have some fun by running free to
get a little exercise.
Your ultimate goal should be for your dog to respond
from a distance, in any room, any yard, any park, or any beach,
just with voice control.
Keep in mind; a truly off-leash trained dog means
a dog that obeys from a distance and around hard-to-avoid
distractions. In simple terms, off-leash means complete verbal
control of your dog under ANY circumstances. I'm not just
referring to obedience commands like Sit, Stay, Down, Heel or
Come. This also applies when you reprimand your dog from a distance
with, "NO," "Leave it," "Off," "Calm
Down," "Shush," "Be Nice," or any other
command of your choice.
When you really think about it, even in your home
or your backyard, 99.9% of the time your dog is without
a leash and not within your reach. You need to be prepared for
that "what-if" moment! I am known to challenge pet owners
and even trainers with my "what-if" questions.
In fact—
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The more you think and prepare for every
possible "what-if" scenario, the
more you are preparing your dog and yourself for the real-world.
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If a trainer cannot prepare you for those "what if"
moments, find a different one. As this clearly indicates
their training only works around little or no distractions. I’ve
seen trainers’ dogs act unruly and embarrass their
handlers when they got loose around tempting distractions.
Dog schools that advertise advanced off-leash response
and those who actually can back up their claim with their
own dogs—or even better, with their clients’ dogs—are
very hard to come by. After all, they should practice what they
preach. Talk is cheap.
I’ve witnessed a few dogs attacking people
or other dogs that belonged to these so-called trainers. Yes,
you read that correctly! The trainer's dog needed more
help! So you can imagine what kind of “expert” these
folks were dealing with. (It reminds me of a mechanic who push-starts
his own car to work every day.)
Reason #8:
You Haven't Mastered
the Art of Distraction-Proofing
We all know that life is full of distractions, yet
many of you have little or no control over your dog when he is
faced with your visitors, other dogs, or the mailman.
It's all about that progression. You see,
in order to distraction-proof a dog properly, you need
to start in your backyard. Within a few training sessions, move
to your front yard. Once you are able to get your dog's attention
in one area, see how well he obeys in an entirely new location.
After mastering those locations, move on to more
challenging zones. As I mentioned in chapter one: You need to
make your pooch street-smart. There are many circumstances out
there that throw off even the most seasoned pet owners.
This is why it’s best to be prepared for ANY possible scenario!
For example, your dog should never break the stay command.
I don’t care if dinosaurs come back to life and start walking
the streets, stay means stay. No matter
what, your dog should NOT move from that spot.
Prior to hiring me, many of my clients could not make their dogs
stay for more than a few seconds. And the dogs that were
able to do it for a minute or so, wouldn't even do that
around dogs or when company was present.
Again, the main reason these dogs did not hold a solid stay was
simple: All of them were taught to stay just because they were
going to get a treat. My radar always went up every time
I caught them licking their lips. The owners kept repeating, stay,
stay, stay... gooood stayyyyyy...while the dog was drooling and
staring at the treat five feet away from him. (WOW! Now that's
what you call the highest level of difficulty!)
Don't you ever forget practicality in your training! You want
to be so prepared that virtually nothing can catch you
two off guard. We all know that relying on treats isn't a part
of real life. Even show confirmation, agility training,
or flyball aren't considered a part of our day-to-day routine.
Besides, how many of you really care about showing your
dog? Yeah. Good luck competing at the next Westminster Dog Show
with your fixed, mixed, or shelter dog. I know some of you might
own a champion pedigree with real show potential, but
from experience, I’ve noticed that the majority of
people get their dogs spayed and neutered as soon as possible.
Are You on the Same or the "Sane
Page" with Your Trainer?
In my years of dealing with thousands of dog owners from all
walks of life, I discovered that people actually prefer a polite
pet far more than a super-trained dog. And it makes perfect
sense. Think about it: The majority of you could care less if
your dog wins you bunch of titles, ribbons and trophies. (Maybe
you'd enroll your pooch in “The Cutest Dog Contest,”
but that’s about it.)
Don’t get me wrong; I have a tremendous respect for those
who compete in obedience trials. Just like the Olympics, this
is where you expect to see perfection! But let's face it; not
everyone is or can be a perfectionist. How about
you? Would you rather have a dog that has manners or
a dog that obeys like a soldier? And if you pay close attention
to obedience competitions, you’ll notice that all of those
dogs are performing a routine, a task, or another well-rehearsed
drill. What you don't know is even most of those exercises
can't always be put to use out in the real world. (Like doing
bunch of black-flips: Impressive to watch and fun to do; especially
if you can DO them—but just not practical.)
Now, be honest. Do you really care if your dog can jump over
obstacles, sniff out a dumbbell, and drop it by your feet? I seriously
doubt it. How about a marvelous heel right next to you? Just being
able to walk the dog on a loose leash is enough for most people
to throw a party. And I'm also certain that not all of you are
crazy about teaching your dog to come to you with his nose perfectly
aligned to your crotch. (Only a few of you caught what I just
described there. Folks, I just went over a number of exercises
in obedience trials.)
Bottom line, if you can get your dog to come to you every
time, that is a wonderful thing! I think I’ve made
my point. The Canine Good Citizen Test is what I actually recommend.
Since this test really prepares you and your dog for practical
things. There are no dumbbells, no hoops to jump
through, and no need to have your dog constantly looking at
you or your cool hand signals. But even this test will challenge
your training foundation to its core.
Here's why: If you are struggling to get your dog's attention
around minor distractions in your home, why make a fool
of yourself in front of ten new dogs and strangers? It has been
proven that dogs and people learn much quicker in a one-on-one
setting rather than in groups.
In conclusion, you should always look for ways to get your dog
to listen to you in real-world. And it can easily be accomplished
without yelling, hitting or relying on that bribery nonsense.
This is where many desperately seek my help. They say, “Kevin,
everything stops working when my dog _______ (fill in your reason).
In most of these cases, I found that the owners didn't have the
slightest idea how to desensitize their dog.
Let me clarify: Why should you even bother asking your dog to
stay for you in front of another dog, in front of your cat, or
frequent visitors, when you can’t even get her to stay in
one spot in your yard, living room or in your kitchen
for at least ten to fifteen minutes? Can you honestly get your
dog to stay put ten feet away from you with your front door/gate
wide open? How about risking it without the leash?
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Here's How Pros Distraction-Proof Their Dogs
!!!
Top trainers are really into desensitization. Their goal is
to get their dogs used to all kinds of diversions. Here’s
a glimpse of their routine: They get their dogs accustomed to
loud noises, kids playing and dogs that act differently. They
practice around cats, squirrels, moving cars, garbage trucks,
the vacuum cleaner and even the lawnmower.
From working around kids on skateboards and scooters, to soccer
moms pushing strollers, they do it all. They condition their dogs
to behave in front of the mail carrier, men in uniform, people
in wheelchairs, and anyone wearing shades or baseball caps. And
of course, they also get their dogs used to people of a different
ethnicity and gender. Otherwise, any of these could set ANY dog
off and cause him to bark, growl, lunge, or get very scared. My
point is it should not even matter where you are, or even if you
happen to run into someone who looks or acts differently!
You and your pooch must remain cool, calm and collected.
Reason #9:
You've been Blessed with a Very
Stubborn Dog
Almost every dog that I've trained so far happened
to be headstrong. Perhaps your dog's ruling like the king or
queen of your castle, but could act shy, timid or even submissive
around dogs and strangers. Don't you find this fascinating?
The majority of people whether they own a Maltese
or a Mastiff, let that dog walk all over them. Some of these
dogs aren't even considered dominant. They are just consistent!
Don't forget; consistent and dominant aren't the same thing.
Now, most of you read the word dominant, and probably
visualize a Rottweiler with a forty-inch neck. On the contrary,
I could be referring to a Chihuahua or a fluffy Pomeranian that
is as strong-willed as they come. I’ve also dealt with
Golden Retrievers that had more alpha traits than a Bulldog.
One way you can definitely find out a
dog's stubborn streak is around distractions. Again, this could
be another dog, a visitor, the mailman, a squirrel, a cat, or
even a noise. And sometimes, there could be no reason
other than you are NOT holding your dog's favorite treat.
If we could hear those thoughts again, they'd
be, “Look, I know what sit means. I just don’t want
to do it right this second.” Or, “I know
sit, you know that I know it, and I darn well know that I know
it. I just hate to listen when I want to investigate other things!
Got that?"
Reason #10:
You Know Exactly What to
Do, But You Just Won't Do it
Many of you know precisely what to do,
how to do it, and why you should do it, but
you just don't do it. These folks are even well aware of a specific
tool that works on their dog. Does this remind
you of anyone? Come on. Admit it. You either stopped using a
certain tool, someone talked you out of it, you assumed that
your dog doesn't need it anymore, or perhaps, you gave it away.
Often it is your spouse that made it disappear. And sometimes
the training tool has nothing to do with it; you've
been lazy or making excuses. It’s time to get back on
track.
Look, we all know that practicing once in a while
is better than nothing, but not nearly enough. Not only will
your dog’s training response get sloppy, but he soon will
start to test you all over again. Dogs are a lot like
music instruments. They need to be tuned on a regular basis.
I cannot emphasize enough that your dog will
NOT stay trained without your constant reinforcement.
After all, isn't this the case whether you are working with
a private trainer or prefer the send-away option?
Now, unless you are willing to literally adopt
me, the maintenance aspect of the training is
always your responsibility! So it wouldn't be fair
to blame me or your dog for your procrastination.
You see, when you are inconsistent with your
training, then out of the blue, tell your dog to stay or heel
perfectly; your dog will most likely play deaf and dumb with
you. Here’s why: Your dog is thinking to himself, “Not
that nonsense again. It’s been months or even years since
you’ve asked me to do jack. So why NOW? Showing off again?
Hey, I can give a paw. That's all I've got. Check it out. Right
paw, left paw, kisses and even rollover. Watch me grab a treat
from midair without it touching the ground. There. This proves
that I am smart, trained AND cute." ”
Reason #11:
You Blame Everything
on Your Dog's Age
Every dog has the potential to change for the
better. That is just the fact. Your dog can easily be taught
to differentiate between right and
wrong; or what you'll tolerate and what you will not!
It amazes me when I see many of you who don’t
even bother to solve any of your dog’s bad habits just
because he happens to be too old. I seriously doubt that you’d
want people to remember your dog in his last years, or even
last few months, as a dog that nobody could stand. I will say
it again:
NO
Dog is Too Old or Too Young For Training!
Studies have shown that a dog’s ability
to obey commands and to act polite rarely has anything to
do with his age. In fact, with a Diverse Method, understanding
dog psychology, and your diligent effort, all dogs
can change.
For instance, you can teach your dog the rules
of your house and how to behave around your friends, strangers,
dogs and kids. The age, breed, size or his past should not
make one bit of difference. Think about this for a moment,
even if your dog has been abused, neglected, or was running
the show with the previous owners, what matters is
what you are going to do about it from here on!
The right approach and a positive attitude will
transform her into a new dog. You don't have a dumb dog.
She'll soon realize that was then, and this is NOW. You'll
see the look that means: These guys act and do things differently
than my previous owners.
Let’s say you have a dog that isn’t
fully house-broken or marks inside your home and all over
your lovely furniture. Perhaps your dog barks constantly,
gets aggressive toward other dogs on walks, or becomes overprotective
around your guests. Now, wouldn’t you want to get these
annoying bad habits under control immediately? It
just doesn't make sense to put up with such bad behavior any
longer, does it? Then please don't pull out the age card again.
If a trainer made you feel hopeless just because
your dog happened to be a young pup or an old grouch, you
obviously have been looking in all the wrong places. A seasoned
expert can easily plan out a program to eliminate or, at the
very least, reduce all of your dog’s unacceptable behavior
regardless of his age. I do it all the time and so
do other top experts in their field.
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No dog is too young, too old, or even too aggressive
for me to NOT give it a second chance.
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Let me give you one last example: Imagine that
you have a seven-year-old dog in desperate need of training
or behavior modification. Unless you own a Great Dane that,
sadly, has a life span of 7-10 years maximum, I’m sure
you’ll agree that your dog could easily live another
four to five years of its natural life.
Now, ask yourself this question: Do I really
want to put up with even more unruly behavior for a few more
years just because of my dog's AGE? Do you honestly believe
that your dog will somehow turn into perfect angel as he gets
older? Are you that optimistic or the word that I’m
looking for is… that naïve? If so, wake
up and smell the coffee! I promise that your dog will get
far worse as he ages.

What Can You Possibly Teach a Young Pup?
About forty percent of my clients are puppy
owners. Many even drop off or ship their dogs directly from
the breeder to me. Surprisingly, I am one of the
few in the business who will even talk to you if your pup
happens to be younger than four months old. Once you start
making some calls, you'll find that the majority of trainers
aren’t knowledgeable in puppy management. This is because
they focus more on socialization and the obedience factor,
but rarely on puppy problem-solving.
These are the trainers that throw puppy classes
and just hope or assume that your doggie should housebreak
itself. They’ll tell you to: just ignore your pup’s
constant whining and barking. Some even believe that your
dog will eventually learn to stop his nipping and jumping
up on you or your guests without any effort on your
part. Hmm.. I think they are actually referring to when
your dog gets arthritis or when his age hits the two digits—whichever
comes first.
Don’t forget that I am NOT just talking
about teaching a puppy to sit, lie down, or to heel. In fact,
having your dog respond to obedience commands might
be the last thing on your mind. These cute pups do
what I call a “psycho dance.” They fight and bite
the leash, put the brakes on, shake their heads side-to-side
and actually act... well, a bit possessed. (It reminds me
of head-bangers in the middle of a mosh pit in those heavy
metal concerts.)
Not Current
on the Shots? Not a Problem!
Most people automatically assume that their
pup needs to be current on all of the vaccinations
in order to start any type of training. This is simply
just another bad information! Think about it. You can have
a trainer come to your home. As long as you don’t
expose your doggie to outdoors until he’s at least four
months old, due to the risks of Parvo and other harmful viruses,
he should be fine.
For example, with pups that are younger than
four months, I take the same measures and precautions as you
or the breeder would in keeping its surroundings clean
and sanitized. Again, you don’t need to put up with
a young dog's unruly behavior and a stinky house for a few
more weeks, let alone a few more months—unless YOU want
to. In fact, the longer you put off training your dog, the
harder it will be to turn those bad habits around.
Bottom line, just because a trainer said that
you can't teach a young pup anything, doesn't mean it's the
truth. Here's the harsh reality: Whether you do anything or
not, your dog is still constantly learning. I'm sure
you wouldn't want that learning process to include getting
away with even more bad habits or finding new ways to cause
you more headaches and frustration.
Reason #12:
You Truly Are in
Charge, but Only Half of the Time
I’ve been to thousands of homes and noticed
something interesting. Of every twenty families, the man happened
to be in charge in only two or three. The rest had the women
if not all, making MOST of the decisions. Now, here's
what I don't get: These women were rarely taller or physically
stronger than their men, yet all it took was one dirty look
and the rest was history. I've seen one raise that lip and
lunge at the poor guy, making him jump back with his tail
between his legs. (Talk about who's the real alpha!)
What's my point? Well, being in charge only
half of the time isn't going to cut when it comes to
any breed of dog. This is why when you let your dog
to get away with not listening, even if it is only ten or
twenty percent of the time, it still makes a HUGE difference
in how he obeys and respects you in general.
For you ladies out there, being in charge of
your doggie is a lot like being in charge of your man. Let
me explain: If you run the show eighty percent of the time,
it's certainly better than nothing. But until you really are
in charge one hundred percent, your dog will most
likely continue to challenge you. You’ll find that eighty
percent gets pushed to seventy, and then sixty and then…
well, you get the idea.
Again, you need one hundred percent authority
over your dog or else you always will have that nagging doubt
of your dog someday, somewhere, making a fool out of you.
I am not saying that all of a sudden you become or act like
a boot camp officer. Just say what you mean and mean what
you say. The idea is to be firm and kind.
I once asked one of my clients, “So who
wears the pants in this house, you or your husband?”
Without missing a beat, she answered, “Oh Kev, he definitely
wears the pants all right. I just tell him which pants
to wear.” By the way, in England they call pants trousers.
Just in case you British men play dumb with me and say, “Nobody
wears the pants in this house.” Yeah, have a nice cup
of tea and think twice, pal. That is, if your woman even lets
you. (I love the Zen tea from Tazo. Let's see if I get anything
from them. Oh, did I mention that I can always make room for
a Lamborghini in my driveway?)
Reason #13:
Your Dog Wins His
Way by Barking, Growing or Snapping
You try to move your dog off your lap or push
him off the couch when he suddenly growls and shows you a
nice set of canines. He may even lunge or snap in an attempt
to really scare you! You jump back and say to yourself, “HOLY
COW! I guess I’ll leave you alone, you brat!”
Here's the doggie logic for ya: Your dog is
thinking, “I will move whenever I feel like it. Got
that? Now GET LOST! Grrrrrr."
You see, every time your dog growls and charges
at you or others and actually gets away with it,
you lose your place in the pack, and your psycho dog wins!
This is a very nasty habit that, if left alone, always gets
worse. I doubt that you want your dog’s bad behavior
to go from worse to worst! These are the dogs that
need the help of an expert who specializes in dealing with
canine aggression and dominance. To put it bluntly—
An average trainer, with average skills,
average knowledge, and by accepting average cases, doesn’t
stand an average chance.
Once you call a few dog schools, you’ll
immediately notice that most of them are not experienced in
dealing with aggressive cases. In fact, they don't even accept
them. That's just the sad reality in the world of dog training:
Teaching the “obedience component” is all they
know and care about. A vast majority of trainers are completely
clueless when it comes to problem-solving and behavioral
issues. The other reason is the liability factor that
many park districts or pet stores don't want to deal with.
In contrast, I get a kick out of working with
difficult cases. Here’s how I look at it: Any bozo can
tell you to get rid of your dog. We need to get rid of the
problem, educate the owners, and ultimately save the
dog.
Reason #14:
Your Dog is Sensitive
or Acts Like it to Win Your Sympathy
The majority of pet owners can't tell what
is serious and what isn’t when their dog acts up! The
reason for this is simple: Most of these dogs are ridiculously
spoiled. So you can imagine why once you put your
foot down and decide to get firm, your dog may give you the
look that reads, "How could you? You forgot that I'm
your baby?"
Some of these dogs have managed to even fool
ME! I’ve had a few in my boot camp that barked, howled
and screamed nonstop as if they were being killed. As I rushed
in to see what was really going on, all I found was
a dog standing, scratching, and staring at me with those googly
eyes. I nicknamed the males “Oscar,” as in an
Oscar-winning performance, and the females “Emmy,”
for Emmy Award nominee. So if you have a dog with Oscar or
Emmy Award potential, you will have to learn when your dog
is acting and when it truly is a big deal. After all, you
just know your dog. (And with some, it takes a pro
with a trained-eye).
Don’t forget that all spoiled
dogs have mastered giving you the sad-eye, innocent look,
and that heart-melting whimper. As soon as you decide to get
firm, some turn their back to make you feel horrible for establishing
your authority. I mean, how could you? Did you already forget
the cuteness? People don’t pay me thousands of dollars
to tell me that their dog is awfully cute! (They also miss
that cute Persian rug that their dog pooped on ten times so
far.)
Admit it; your dog can be quite manipulative.
I'm betting he knows exactly what works on you and
what doesn’t. Don’t some kids get away with unacceptable
behavior? In fact, didn’t YOU or your siblings try to
pull some moves on your parents? Of course you did!
To be fair, some dogs truly are that shy, scared
or sensitive, but the vast majority are amazing
actors. Take it from someone who deals with at least
ten to fifteen dogs on a daily basis. I’ve known a few
that even faked a limp when they wanted to win the owner's
sympathy. (The dog is limping while the training is in session,
but once you unhook that leash, he runs nonstop like a dog
on meth.)
This is when an experienced expert can always
tell the difference. And of course, just like us, if
your dog is truly frightened or not as confident, he won't
respond to you as expected. Can you blame him?
Reason #15:
You Never Knew How Well
Your Dog Can Read Body Language
Would you believe that eighty to ninety percent
of most communication is nonverbal? We all
know that words can be deceiving and commands can get mixed
up, but body language rarely lies. In fact, you can
often get the real truth from someone's body language.
You can tell a lot just by the way a person sits
or shakes your hand. See whether they lean back, forward, cross
their legs, or if they fidget repeatedly. How about the way
someone stands? Pay attention to their arms. Are they crossed,
on their hips, in their pockets, or held behind their back?
How about the way someone looks at you or maybe even tries to
avoid making eye contact. These traits all reveal a
great deal about a person. Heck, sometimes you don’t even
need to know what language someone's speaking. All you have
to do is study their body language.
Men do this to women all the time. You could
say that we are good observers, but poor listeners. The truth
is we are good at pretending that we heard you. My
secret is to keep saying, “Hmm,” “WOW,”
“Is that right?” “NO, she didn’t,”
and my favorite of all, “You’ll figure it out. Just
go with your intuition.” Listen up, men. Do this and you
won’t end up on the Dr. Phil show. (Too bad most
book readers are women and only a few guys will get their hands
on my golden advice.)
Now, let’s see how your doggy reads YOU
based on your body language and posture. You see, if you train
your dog by constantly bending over, kneeling down, backing
away or following her with your face, you are making the training
routines even more complicated. In fact, by doing so, you are
unknowingly giving your dog the role of control.
It makes me smile every time I see owners and
even some trainers get on their knees and slap the
ground in an attempt to get the dog to lie down. Hello? The
dog already knows where the floor is. And you certainly don’t
need to have her follow your finger all the way to the ground
either. This is simply tricking your dog into thinking that
you are holding some sort of treat, which isn’t fair at
all.
When you are able to make your
dog lie down on command without any yelling, hitting or bribery,
this proves that he has accepted you as the one in charge. To
be precise, he is actually submitting to you as a sign of respect!
The only time you should break your back is while
patting, praising, or when you are dealing with a fearful
dog. Can you think of anyone who would approach a scared or
a shy dog by standing erect with their hands on their waist?
I hope not. Most of us know that is a dominant gesture and sometimes
could be interpreted a bit confrontational.
Don't forget that dogs are masters at reading
not only the dogs’ but also humans' body
language. That's why it makes sense to be conscious of when
to stand up and when you need to get down to your dog’s
level. For example, if you own a long-haired dog and his hair
is covering his eyes, you won’t be able to fully communicate
with it. Your dog will have a difficult time seeing your body
language, your hand signals, facial expressions and the reaction
or posture of other dogs. And it's really
not fair for your pooch to figure things out by relying solely
on his sense of smell or hearing.
The rule of thumb should be: If you can’t
see your dog’s eyes, then obviously he can’t see
yours either. This is especially important if your pooch happens
to suffer from hearing loss or has gone completely deaf due
to illness or old age.
Reason #16:
Your Dog is Overly Cautious
with Strangers or Other Dogs
When we get scared, we either respond with fight,
flight, freeze, or throw in an “F bomb.” Dogs aren't
any different. Some show fear only towards men. Some are afraid
of every dog they encounter, and some become aggressive or fearful
with anybody who walks in your front door.
If you've ever dealt with a skittish dog, you
know exactly what I'm talking about. In the first few days,
these dogs are in a state of observation. In other
words, they are casing the joint! (Let's see how many of you
even know what the heck I just said there.) They carefully study
your behavior to see whether you are loud, friendly, mean, strong,
consistent, assertive, smart, psycho or just dumb. And, of course,
they'll test and challenge your training skill.
I’ve noticed this with many of my boot camp
dogs. As I am evaluating the dog’s temperament and level
of response, the dog is also carefully observing me and
my actions. And let's not forget trust. That's right. We
have to trust someone in order to accept them as a friend, a
mate, or as our leader. Dogs observe humans with a very similar
mindset.
How do you build trust with a dog? Well, with
fearful, shy and abused dogs, use tasty treats with a nonthreatening
posture. (Keep in mind; this is one of those rare occasions
when treats could help in gaining the dog’s trust
and confidence.) And with other dogs…oh, come on. You
don’t expect me to reveal all of my secrets in # 16 now,
do you?
Reason #17:
You Are Boring or too Predictable with Your Training Routines
When your training exercises are too predictable,
too long, or you always practice at the same time of
the day and at the same location, your dog will most
likely figure you out and would rather watch grass grow than
have you train him like a robot.
If you don't believe me; I want you to try this
experiment: Tell your dog to sit for you thirty times in a row.
You’ll see that the more you make him mind you, the slower
and less responsive he becomes. Don’t be surprised if
he gives you a dirty look, walks away, lies down and flat out
refuses to get back up. You guessed it. I'm talking about playing
“the dead fish game.” (He may even start chewing
on his middle finger trying to extend it to give you the doggie
bird.)
Again, if your dog could speak, he’d be
yelling, “Dude, give me a break! I did so many already!
Where’s the cookie? You know that I don’t work for
FREE! I am done, FINITO!” (For some reason, they always
say that last part in Italian.)
Bottom line, get creative and start training
your dog in all kinds of locations. The goal is to never be
predictable and keep things fresh and exciting. Challenge your
dog by having him respond to you in different rooms and parts
of your house. Once he obeys you fairly well indoors, move outdoors.
Don't skip the front yard, the back yard, by the fence, your
neighborhood, local parks as well as those pet stores. By doing
so, you test your authority, not to forget your dog's command
response in different settings.
Reason #18:
Your Dog is Having
a Bad Day or Just Doesn't Feel Well
This can easily happen if the weather is too
hot, too cold or too windy for your dog. For some reason, dogs
get a bit excited and even agitated when it’s too windy.
And of course, there will be times when your dog is truly sick.
Also, if you have a female dog and suspect that
she's going into heat, you’d better believe your training
will NOT go as smoothly. You see, when you have a bitch in heat,
she will get moody, feisty, and may even try to get away. You
could also have intact male dogs trying to break into your yard.
Even super-trained dogs that are spayed or neutered can’t
fully focus when a dog in heat is close by. I'm telling you,
all it takes is one bitch to mess everything up. So please make
sure that your dog isn't stressed or in any physical pain before
you start barking out bunch of commands at him. Just think of
how YOU respond when you are sick. Some of us are able to pull
ourselves together, and some cannot.
I will never forget the day I noticed a little
blood in one of my shepherd's stool. I didn’t think much
of it then and still took him to his protection training. And
that's when out of the blue, he lunged at one of the trainers.
Obviously, this was a big deal and I should not have ignored
it. The poor dog clearly did not feel well that day and took
it out on the trainer.
It’s amazing how well dogs read our body
language. They observe our behavior, and in a way, pick up on
our vibe. So, if you or anyone else in your household is not
feeling well, your dog can easily sense it. Whether it is you
or your dog that is feeling sick or perhaps you are having a
bad day, it’s smart to skip the training. That's right.
Get some rest or do something fun or weird instead, like jumping
on a trampoline in the nude.
Reason #19:
You Never Gave
Other Training Tools an Honest Chance
If you carefully study various breeds of dogs,
you'll immediately notice something interesting: Dogs in this
day and age are much bigger, smarter, faster and even tougher
than they were ten or twenty years ago. This is due to drastic
improvements in breeding, vet care, medicine, and let's not
forget, the quality of dog food. And we humans in America are
getting lazier, busier, fatter and more out of shape than ever.
You wanna supersize that? Go king? Jumbo? Add
sour cream? Bacon? I say, “I want all that with a small
diet Coke.” But to be fair, I always carry my
own side of organic ranch dressing for my fries. Those darn
fast food places never carry anything organic.
Now that I've made you hungry or grossed out, back to the
dogs.
It’s a no-brainer that our doggies have
an upper-hand over our fat a**es. So how can we increase the
odds in our favor? By using a tool that can get your dog’s
attention even around the most tempting distractions.
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If You Are NOT Seeing Much Progress,
Chances Are that You Haven't Tried Every Tool Out There.
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Some of these Include:
* A proper 4-6 ft
leash for training and walking (not retractable, knotted or
a chain leash).
* Proper collar. Preferably buckle.
(Velcro and snap ons usually stretch and aren't safe).
* Long line or rope (for distance
exercises such as "come," "stay," or boundary
control).
* Crate (to enforce potty-training
or to prevent destructiveness and marking).
* Wee Wee Pads for housebreaking
small breeds or apartment dogs.
* Playpen, exercise pen aka doggy
gates (for portable boundary control).
* Wire mesh pet pen cover to prevent
dogs from jumping out (found on the web).
* Doggy door to allow your dog
to enter or exit on its terms.
* Dog run or dog pen (to prevent
digging and destructiveness while unsupervised).
* Bark collars (the brands that
impressed me are DogTra and Tri Tronics).
* Longer contact points for bark
collars or remote collars (used for thick or long-haired dogs).
* Chain leashes or tie-down cables
(for dogs that chew up their leashes).
* Metal shaker cans (to stop and
control unwanted behavior).
* Spray bottle/squirt gun (only
works on small or sensitive dogs).
* Vests that read: "Dog in
Training" or "Do NOT Pet me". (used to stop kids
and irresponsible adults from petting your dog without your
permission out in public).
* Muzzles (to prevent destructive
chewing or serious biting).
NOTE: Baskets muzzles are much stronger and dogs can breathe
and even pant through them much better.
* Remote electronic collar (for
distance response and instant control of unwanted behavior).
* Underground wiring system (designed
to keep dogs within your property).
* Electric fence (used for boundary
and perimeter control).
* Doggie GPS Tracker: Texts you
every time your dog/kittie leaves your property. Or, God forbid,
if your dog ever gets stolen. Great for escape artists. Water
resistant, battery lasts up to 30 days. (Too bad they don’t
make one for kids yet. The brand that comes to mind is called,
Tagg.)
* Choke chains (trainers who are
into obedience trials or show confirmation swear by it, I don't).
* Pinch collars (are better and
much more humane choice than choking the dog nonstop).
* Covers made especially for prong/pinch
collar (to prevent the links from popping out and to save yourself
from those dirty looks you'll get from others. It's the look
as if they just ran into Hitler walking his dog. This item isn't
popular in pet stores yet. So look for it on the web).
Let's not forget the lovely lectures you'll get
from those who don't know anything about you or your
dog. (Hey, they are bunch of tree-huggers. These folks
don't even want you to poo anywhere, and if you do, you better
wipe with some leaf to save the planet. Just give them a bear
hug, pump your fist and shout: GO GREEN!)
NOTE: Pinch collars are also used by owners
of big and strong dogs. And of course, many try them once they
notice that the plain old choke chain doesn't seem to work or
has stopped working a long time ago.
It will amaze you by how effective the tools
I listed above can be in your training. You'll love the peace
of mind you get once you put them to use. For example, the electric
wireless fence is designed to keep dogs contained in your yard.
They are especially useful if you live where traditional fencing
is not allowed. These devices are also used to keep dogs away
from the pool, the spa, or your garden.
You've probably seen some dogs that no matter
what, did NOT leave their front yard. Next time, pay attention
and look for a little black box attached to the dog’s
collar. As you can see, technology has its advantages and it’s
no different when it comes to the world of dog training.
The
Worst Training Tools on
the Market:
The most useless and annoying
training tools in pet stores have to be
the clicker, retractable leash, harness
and martingale collar. What’s funny
is almost all dog owners are either
currently using one of these tools
or have done so at one point
in the past.
I have no doubt that if
your dog is pulling you all over the place,
chances are very high that you're walking
it with a retractable leash or, even worse,
the retractable leash is also hooked up
to some harness. Don't feel bad; many
of you have been misled into thinking
that harnesses offer better control. When
in reality, with a harness your dog can
pull you much better using all
of his body weight.
Again, both of these tools
offer little or no control to stop a strong
dog’s pulling or lunging—especially
when he is distracted or agitated.
Things always get worse when you two are
faced with other dogs that get aggressive.
My point is that certain
tools work, and certain ones do not. Some
work for a while and some, when you really
need them to work, won’t even faze
your dog.
There is
a tool specifically designed for EVERY
breed. Your job is to find which matches
your dog’s physical strength, intelligence,
prey drive and determination.
It's just not fair to expect
an average pet owner to figure out all
the pros and cons of different training
tools on the market. After all, there
are so many. Here's a short list: Choke
collars, pinch/prong collars, electronic
collars, Gentle Leader, Halti, Martingale,
Easy Walk Harness, or, I'll say it again,
that nonsense clicker.
Serious
Flaws about Harnesses,
Gentle Leaders and Haltis:
Answer this: Would you
rather train your dog or restrain
him? Any moron can restrain a dog. It
doesn’t take much skill or technique.
Harnesses are designed for dogs to pull
and lead. If you still doubt this,
just take a look at weight-pulling competition,
search and rescue, and even dogs for the
blind. When you see these dogs in action,
you can’t help but notice that they
are all wearing something similar to a
harness. Many trainers even recommend
the use of a harness with protection-trained
dogs.
Now, head halters, which
are known as the Gentle Leader or the
Halti, are not much different from harnesses.
It is the same restraining concept
as the head halter for horses, goats and
Alpacas. (Folks, it’s a dog, for
crying out loud—NOT an Alpaca!)
Besides, the Gentle Leader
isn’t as gentle as it sounds after
all. As your dog pulls and you keep yanking
on that leash, this repetitive action
causes a dent or a bald spot on his snout.
I see this scar mostly on Labs, Goldens,
Shepherds, Dobermans, Boxers and Dalmations.
There have been reports of dogs with strained
necks and spinal injuries due to the use
of this tool. This is because the dog’s
neck is actually designed to take a lot
of pressure and even a bit of abuse from
other dogs. But you can't just
make the same argument about their spine.
Another downside in using
head halters is that dogs never seem to
get used to wearing them. They
always scratch their nose or shake their
head side-to-side, as if they are fighting
demons. Many keep rubbing their face on
the ground desperately trying to take
them off.
Also, by training your
dog with a head halter, you will have
a very tough time getting it reliably
off-leash trained. Since your
dog will always know when he
has it on. Think about it; you cannot
leave this tool on your dog until he actually
forgets about it. Many chew them
up and rip them off their face in a matter
of seconds. This especially happens the
minute you run into a dog, a cat, a squirrel
or a person your dog wants to greet or
kill.
Let me give you another
example that, as some say, “will
seal the deal" once and for all.
Just as you forget that you are wearing
a watch, a ring, Bluetooth, glasses or
even a thong (OK, maybe not a thong),
your dog will and CAN get used to wearing
a collar, pinch collar, or even a remote
training collar. This is because all of
these tools are made to fit around
a dog’s “neck.” So most
dogs eventually forget that they even
have it on. Now, that is a fact!
Folks, it is impossible
to create the same kind of feeling with
a head halter or a harness! Again, this
is why it is extremely difficult to get
dogs reliably off-leash trained with the
use of Gentle Leaders, Haltis or harnesses.
(Besides, the dogs that I get for training
chewed up these cheesy cloth straps and
peed on them. So much for gentle. Thank
God I haven't seen any of it in their
poop yet. )
But all kidding aside, if the Gentle Leader
or Halti truly works for you and your
dog, use it. This is a must with dogs
that are too strong, too big, or their
owners may have physical limitation. I'm
talking about those of you who suffer
from: Some sort of surgery, a bad shoulder,
arthritis, tendinitis or carpal tunnel
syndrome. And if worse comes to worst,
I totally agree with restraining
a dog. Hey, it's much better than having
your dog cause more grief and embarrassment.
Sadly,
Head Halters Always Tend to Scare
People!
Here’s another undeniable
fact: Some people will view you as wicked
or inhumane when they see a pinch collar
or remote training collar on your dog.
On the other hand, head halters make your
dog look mean and unpredictable!
Keep in mind that the general public and
a large number of dog owners are STILL
not that familiar with head halters. So
you can't blame them for assuming your
dog is on a muzzle. They will watch your
dog like a hawk to see if he truly is
unpredictable or a biter.
Everybody will clear the
way and automatically think that you are
walking “Hannibal Lecter”!
Or, even better, you'll feel like Moses,
carrying a sign or a flag that reads,
“Don’t worry. My dog isn’t
wearing a muzzle; it’s just a strap
to stop his leash pulling.”
Now,
which do YOU prefer? Would you rather
look like a cruel dog owner, or have the
whole world think that your dog is a biter?
I rest my case!
What
Do Top Trainers Use with Their Own
Dogs?
Successful trainers'
tool of choice happens to be the choke,
pinch, or the remote training collar.
Now, I know that as you are reading this,
in some all positive training chat room,
they are calling me a liar. But don't
take my word for it. Knock yourself out
and research the heck out of this topic!
I'm referring to top pros
that can back up their claim with their
own dogs. They often
have a list of clients with impressively
trained dogs. (Again, I am not just talking
about one super-trained dog that came
with the trainer.)
I had the pleasure to observe
dozens of obedience competitions, attended
many seminars, and seen plenty of protection-trained
dogs in action. So, unless you are another
seasoned trainer, it's fair to assume
that you don't know much about the world
of dogs or dog trainers.
Don't forget that I am talking
about the dogs that respond flawlessly
under ANY kind of pressure. You guessed
it: Every single one of them has been
trained by the proper and humane use of
the choke, prong, or remote training collar.
Again, facts are facts.
But I also know that facts
don't always matter much to everybody.
This is why it's best that you actually
watch these dogs in action. And
I reassure you that you won't see them
on head halters, harnesses or retractable
leashes. And as for clickers, other than
using it for tricks, I honestly haven't
seen a real use for this device.
Those who swear on clicker training
makes me sad. They click with one hand
and bribe with other. And again, if
we could read minds, that dog is most
likely thinking, "Look at this
moron. She honestly thinks that I will
do this crap even if I don't see OR
smell any treats nearby. Keep clicking.
As soon as I am off my leash running
wild, I don't care even if the clicking
sound comes from a surround system.
If it's in high def, maybe!"
Now, let me ask you something: If top
breeders and trainers in the industry
believe in the proper and nonviolent
use of these tools, why shouldn't YOU?
Again, use whatever that gets your dog’s
attention—under any circumstance.
That is just the smart and diverse thing
to do.
Diverse Trainers' Mindset about Different
Tools
Trainers who advocate the “Diverse
Method” are always open-minded and actually encourage
you to experiment with variety of tools. After all,
it is one thing for me to be able to control
your dog by using a certain tool, but it is a totally
different story when you try to do it all on your own.
Don't forget; it is YOUR dog, and she
should respond the same way to you as she responds to
me or anyone else.
HINT: You’ll know
you are using the right training tool when it gets your
dog’s attention anywhere, anytime and in front of
ANY distraction. If the tool you are currently using truly
works around dogs, cats, visitors, joggers and cars—then
that’s the one you should always depend on. You’ll
soon realize that the use of proper tools, combined with
a positive attitude and a solid technique, will
get you real and long-term results. Think and train "Diverse"
and I promise you that you’ll make lots of dog owners
extremely jealous.
In my programs, whether you choose private lessons or
decide to go with my boot camp, I have a process: First,
I study your dog’s personality, energy level, size,
strength, prey drive, lifestyle and stubborn streak. Then,
I observe and try to match it to your strength,
coordination, physical capabilities and of course, your
overall expectations. This evaluation helps me find that
perfect tool designed for your dog.
It is virtually impossible to
get the same level of response from different breeds with
just one training tool. This is why it just
makes sense to try every option before narrowing it down
to the one tool that works the best. Only then will you
know beyond a shadow of doubt which tool is the real deal
and which is a joke. (A-hem. The clicker! I know. I don't
let go, do I?)
Reason
#20:
Your Dog Senses Your Poor Attitude and Uses it Against You
(The Most
Important of ALL Reasons!)
You really need to have a winning attitude. I
know this may remind you of a coach or a motivational speaker,
but don’t automatically assume that your dog is un-trainable
or just stupid. Let me reassure you that NO BREED of dog is
un-trainable. Think about it; why would any breeder
dedicate years of research and trial after trial in order to
create a dumb dog that nobody can train?
I know many of you just can’t help but compare
your dog to your friends’ dogs or even your previous
dogs. But don't ever forget that every dog is
unique. Just as it's not fair for you to be compared to your
brothers and sisters, your dog doesn't deserve to be compared
to other dogs. Period!
Even if you happen to own a very big dog, you
still should be able to establish your leadership.
I’ve known dog owners whose dogs outweigh them by twenty
to forty pounds, yet they still had complete control
of their dog. What I find fascinating is it always starts with
a positive attitude. And it's not about how tall, how short,
or even how strong you are; it’s all about how you
think and act.
I once saw a comedian who happened to be a short
fella. He said, “Short people don't get much respect."
He then continued, "Heck, even short people don’t
always respect another short individual.”
You've heard the saying, “Never judge a
book by its cover,” but we do regardless. The truth is
when you are only this strong, this tall, or this consistent;
you better believe it that your dog will challenge
you. Dogs especially do this more with those who lack skill
or authority. This is why it's best to rely on your raw
determination.
Have you noticed that Tom Cruise is not very tall?
Ask anyone who has met him in person or pay close attention
next time you see him on the screen or in magazines. Now, he
may be a short fella, but by the way he talks, walks, acts,
and even fights on screen, you actually start to believe that
he could kick anybody’s butt in a matter of seconds. (Much
like Van Damme, who always did the splits, and then upper-cut
the villain to the groin. Van Damme it. It's just a movie.)
Cesar Millan is also another short fella, but
gets the dogs under control. For some reason, people often guess
me older, taller, and sometimes even lighter than my actual
weight. (I'm sure they are just being nice about the weight.)
But all kidding aside, I’m sure you’ll agree that
most of these judgments are based on how you talk, walk, think,
and even who you hang out with. I always say, “Show me
your friends and I’ll predict your future. And if you
have no friends, that’s not much of a future either.”
Now, if you are a female reading this and you
let your dog push you around, you are not alone. After all,
you are in charge of your household, in charge of
your man, but NOT in charge of that dog. Isn’t that frustrating?
I am not being sexist here; this is the case most of the time.
Women are also the ones who actually admit
that they need help with their dogs. Ask any dog trainer.
If it weren’t for the ladies, we would've gone out of
business a long time ago! Unlike men, they actually ask
for help and that’s one of the things I truly admire about
them.
Now men, on the other hand… men, men, men.
Love them or hate them, we are wired differently. Have you noticed
how we rather get shot than ask for directions? Here's a typical
guy's rationale: I was never lost to begin with; I just wanted
to explore another route. Is that wrong? To be curious
and try a completely new road in the middle of nowhere? Who
cares if everyone's tired, hungry, scared, and the car is nearly
out of gas? (Why do you think that most GPS devices are in women's
voices? It's the voice of reason; desperately trying
to get through our thick skull.)
Speaking of travel, those of you who haven’t
traveled much outside the U.S. just don’t know how great
this country really is. I'm telling you, the more you travel
outside the United States, the more you’ll appreciate
it. America, hands down, is the best country in the world.
Here. It will take me a second to prove my point:
Have you ever heard of anyone who, once they finally
made it to Greece, dropped to their knees, looked to the sky,
held their hands together, and yelled, "Yeah baby!!! Greece,
here comes papa!" But when people make it to America, it's
a totally different ball game. (Now, I love Greece and love
Greek food even more. So you'd better not just give me a plain
Greek salad when I finally make it there.)
So next time your neighbors complain about your
barking dogs or the economy, just shout, “Hey pal, this
is America. Love it or leave it!” (Hmm... I love America,
but man, have you guys studied Europe's healthcare system?)
So,
Did I Miss Any Other Reason? I Seriously Doubt it.
Actually, the only other reason for your dog
not listening to you is if you knowingly or unknowingly
taught your dog to misbehave. For instance, if you let your
dog to chase a laser light, now he's fixated on the floor and
goes after every shadow. You gave your dog some table food,
and now he keeps begging or hovering around the table every
time you eat. You taught your dog to bark on command to get
a treat, and now he won't shut up every time he sees your mouth
moving. You tapped on your chest to invite your dog to jump
up on you, and now he body-slams you every time HE feels like
giving you a hug. It was always funny to say, "Go get the
kitty," or "Where's the kitty?" and now that
he almost got hit by a car chasing after some stray cat, it's
not funny anymore. I think you get my drift.
You see, the term “trained” can mean
different things to different people. It could mean housetrained,
leash- trained, obedience-trained, off-leash trained, trained
to have manners, trained to know in which room or part of your
house your dog is allowed and not allowed, and of course, trained
to be friendly. Some of you only care for your dog to be manageable
around other dogs and your guests.
If you honestly believe that your dog isn't that
bright, it is most likely because he's more stubborn than you
anticipated. Dog owners confuse these two all the time. In fact,
I rarely deal with dumb dogs. I am not saying this to make you
feel better. I speak from training and rehabilitating thousands
of dogs in over two decades. But, here's—
How Positive Trainers Make
Their Case!
Let's accept this cold hard fact: Treat-trainers
are usually pretty convincing in selling their lies. This is
especially the case when their bribery nonsense stops working.
They will try to convince you that it is either your fault
or the dog’s fault for not seeing results. Don’t
fall for it.
You know your dog better than anyone.
So I have no doubt that you can tell when he’s playing
you, or when he’s just being stubborn. But as soon as
those yummy treats and timeouts stop working, these morons come
up with ridiculous excuses. Some of them act like a veterinarian
or a behaviorist and swear that your dog suffers from some sort
of chemical imbalance. Some just to sound smart, diagnose it
as an early malnourishment or poor breeding. Sorry, but you
are actually dealing with poor training, not breeding.
And some recommend drugs for your dog.
Give me a break. Everybody knows that drugs come
with their wonderful list of side-effects. To solve diarrhea,
the drug may also cause dizziness and vomiting. Now there's
a solution! Once I am dizzy, light-headed and start to throw
up left and right, who cares if I can’t make it to the
bathroom? I won’t even notice that I crapped my pants.
(As Charlie Sheen would say, I am WINNING! Duh!)
The magical pill Viagra may help you down there,
but did you know that one of its side effects is: hearing loss,
sudden blindness, stroke or even a heart attack? (I am not making
this up. Be my guest and research it. Hey, at least we'll cross
over, umm... very happy!)
Now, do you honestly think your poor dog will
be able to tell you what else is wrong with him after
being prescribed doggy Prozac? Then be sure that you do your
homework before you consider the use of ANY drug.
I've been able to solve many tough cases that
other experts labeled as un-trainable, untrustworthy, or just
hopeless. Some of my clients were told by their previous trainers
that their dog would need to be locked in a crate, be muzzled
for the rest of his life, or put to sleep. Wait a minute! That
is killing the dog, not putting him to sleep. Am I
missing something here? Let’s not sugarcoat it.
We are not talking about a fight where one drops
the other guy like a bad transmission and he goes na-night.
I am sick of reading and hearing this term. Now, if your dog
is too old, too injured or too sick to be saved, use this analogy.
But if you are just giving up on your dog and deciding his fate,
don’t say that you had to put him down or to sleep! For
most of my clients, the dog is a part of the family. And to
some, they were just that: another dog!
A client of mine shared her experience with me
about calling the ASPCA. She needed some suggestions or recommendations
on what to do with her dog’s aggression toward other dogs.
She didn’t even get a chance to finish her sentence, when
the woman cut her off by saying, “Sure. Just bring him
by. We’ll put him down for you.” She was shocked
and heartbroken and told me, “Kevin, it sounded as if
she was eating her lunch while sipping on her soda. No compassion
whatsoever!” And here you thought they were all supposed
to love dogs and educate people on different alternatives.
Just imagine if numerous doctors diagnosed you
or your loved ones with an incurable disease. But there was
just one expert who, despite others’ skepticism, promised
a remarkable recovery. Only one. Would you still doubt him/her?
It’s hard not to. But if they have an impressive
record to back up their claim, it would definitely make you
think twice. It is no different when it comes to the majority
of owners who seek my help with their dogs.
Be Realistic! Is Your Dog Really
that Hopeless?
I've had dozens of clients tell me, “Every
trainer I’ve worked with, said that my dog will never
be able to __________ (fill in the blank). Now, the question
they ask me is straight to the point: How can I
possibly promise a different outcome?" My reply never changes:
“That is their opinion and it also proves their
expertise in dealing with that particular issue.” In most
cases, it is only their assumption, NOT a fact!
You see, if you have honestly tried everything
within your power with little or absolutely no success, then
and only then can you call it a fact. Even so, under those circumstances,
there still might be something else you could have
tried, especially if you had known about it.
So I always tell these frustrated pet owners,
“Either give your dog another chance or accept what everyone
else tells you. The choice is yours.”
.........................................................................................................
What surprised many of these doubting experts is how I managed
to
turn-around their most challenging cases without yelling, hitting,
bribery or even the use of drugs.
.................................................................................
Don't forget that, according to them, most of
these dogs were hopeless. So I guess that makes me
some kind of miracle worker. Or, maybe I just got lucky. Mohammad
Ali said it best, “It's not bragging if you can back it
up.”
As you probably can tell by now, one of my favorite
TV shows is Dr. Phil. In one episode, he featured deaf-blind
triplets. You read correctly! Triplets who were deaf and
blind. The most amazing part of their story to me is the dedication
and the unconditional love they received from their parents.
Just imagine taking care of someone who is deaf and blind. Now
try taking care of not one, not two, but THREE of these precious
babies all at the same time. They are the world’s first
deaf and blind triplets. Why did I bring this up, you ask?
My point is simple: When people are that dedicated,
they will go through hell to make things work. You need to be
committed to your dog and actually believe in him.
After all, nobody can take away your belief from you. Giving
up is just too darn easy. But those who do not, definitely
get to enjoy the outcome of their hard work.
Now, whether your dog is old or young, bright
or slow, cute or ugly, big or small, friendly or vicious, you
can still stop, or at least, reduce all of these issues:
* Jumping up on you and your visitors
* Peeing and pooping all over your
place
* Lunging every time he sees an
aggressive or friendly dog
* Dragging you on a leash for the
first two blocks of the walk
* Begging and stealing food off
counters
* Barking constantly in your presence
or absence
* Ignoring your commands
* Knocking down the kids with no
sense of weight or size
* Picking on or even attacking
your other dogs
* Chasing cats, cars, squirrels,
bicycles and kids
* Encouraging those committed joggers
to jog even faster
* And worst of all, growling, snapping
and literally trying to bite at strangers, at you, or your loved
ones.
If your dog acts like a maniac, most likely it
is because you let it get that far. And if your dog
is well-mannered and sets a great example, I'm betting it’s
because you put in hours and hours of training and behavior
modification to make it happen. People rarely get lucky
with a well-mannered dog. Just as polite kids don’t
grow on trees or fall from the sky, neither do well-behaved
dogs.
In conclusion, everyone will judge you based on how your dog
behaves. Some of you always say, “Oh, he’s my baby,”
or “She’s my girl.” Then make sure your baby
doggie isn’t going to kill actual babies and
is under your total control. Don’t you hate parents
who have no power over their kids? Believe me; the majority
of people feel the same way when they run into a wild dog and
a clueless owner.
Providing a good home, food, water and medical
attention is only half of your responsibility. Teaching manners,
yes, manners and etiquette is just as important
and necessary. But sadly, many dog owners struggle with this
and it's all because of lack of knowledge or giving up too soon.
You can’t get much further if you don’t know where
you are at the moment. Whether you are a first-time dog owner,
experienced dog owner, a part-time trainer, novice or an old
pro, these twenty reasons will let you know EXACTLY where you
stand and what you need to do from here on.
Written by International
Trainer and Dog Psychologist, Kevin "The Dog Prodigy"
Taken from Kevin's Book,
"Hidden Secrets Behind Dog Training"
We all die. The goal isn't to live forever, the goal is to
create something that will.”
--Chuck Palahniuk

This Book Gives You a
Totally New Perspective About:
1. Yourself - Your thoughts, beliefs and perception
of your current and previous dogs.
2. Your Dog - Why and how your dog thinks and responds in different
scenarios.
3. Your Method – Unravel the strengths and weaknesses
of different techniques.
4. Your Tools – Which training tools work and which eventually
stop working.
5. Your Trainer - Their philosophy, expertise, expectations
and limitations.
6. The Dog Training Industry – How to use the system to
your advantage.
It took ten years of hard work, intense research, and studying
thousands of cases
to write this book.
My Mission:
To Find All the Reasons Why Dogs Didn't Thrive to Their Fullest
Potential.
I was shocked to find that the "real cause" had very
little to do with the dogs' age, breed,
size, intelligence, history, or even personality, but had everything
to do with the
“human element.”
Dog owners and even dog trainers from all around the globe were
skillfully misled, influenced and even brainwashed. Sadly, all
this had a tremendous affect on their beliefs, attitude, technique,
drive, sense of hope, creativity, and of course--their level
of success.
Book's Description:
This book takes a deeper look at modern dog training and canine
psychology while it also introduces you to the next level and
the future of training and canine behavior modification—“The
Diverse Method.”
Think about it. If there are more than four hundred
different breeds of dogs in this world, how can they possibly
all respond to only one way of training? Have you ever considered
that fact? You see, every dog was bred specifically for a purpose.
So for any expert to argue that you can train EACH AND EVERY
ONE with just Positive Reinforcement or Negative Reinforcement
show their arrogance, lack of experience and diversity.
The secret is to follow a "Diverse Reinforcement"
because, just as with humans, dogs don't always respond to a
strictly positive or negative approach. Here's where it gets
more interesting. All dog trainers know this, but don't or can't
teach it in their training method.
!!! Now
Did I Get Your Attention??? !!!
Look, you are definitely NOT going to be safe, smart or successful
if you rely on just one way of training as a crutch. The key
to greatness is to arm yourself with different training techniques
that will prepare you for ANY dog, despite their age, size,
strengths, intelligence, past history or personality. Again,
I am talking about being "Diverse" because no method
and no training tool is guaranteed to work in every situation
and on every dog. That's just a fact! This is one of those rare
books that will make you smile, make you laugh, make you think
and even challenge you to push yourself far beyond your leash
or your bag of treats. It is filled with life lessons along
with my incredible journey with dogs from all walks of life.
If you are the sensitive type, you may get a few lumps in your
throat. I've spent a decade writing this book, which inspired
me to learn something new from every dog, every owner and every
trainer I've encountered. So, in a way, the book has grown with
me.
My hope is that when you finish it, both you and your dog will
be able to communicate with one another much more effectively.
--Kevin "The Dog Prodigy"
Master Dog Trainer / Author
About the Author:
Kevin Salem is considered to be a prominent philosopher and
one of the brightest minds in the world of dog training. It’s
hard to paint Kevin’s image with the same brush as others,
as his unique way of "Diverse Method" and philosophy,
makes him very distinct.
Ever since he was young, Kevin has been able to relate and
communicate with dogs in a very special way. You know when you
meet a natural. We’ve all seen one. These individuals
are rarely taught, but rather born. In over two decades of working
with different breeds, he has successfully trained well over
10,000 dogs worldwide, earning him the nickname,“The Dog
Prodigy.”
He is one of those rare experts in his field who has the knowledge
and the expertise to accept challenging cases that the majority
of dog schools simply don’t want to deal with. We are
referring to “red zone dogs,” and those already
given up on by many trainers, veterinarians and even animal
behaviorists. He is proud of saving hundreds of these dogs from
abandonment, shelters, or worse, euthanasia.
Kevin gained his experience from studying and practicing different
methods of training. To expand his knowledge even further, he
also compared the strengths and weaknesses of different theories
from more than a hundred books on dog training, dog behavior,
and canine psychology.
Mr. Salem currently operates his school, Dog Secrets, where
he offers house calls not only throughout the US, but globally.
You may also send your dog to his most popular program, the
Doggie Boot Camp.
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Read Kevin's touching and remarkable story.
Have you noticed that the very best things in life are rarely
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